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writes:i am in love with my bestfriend but she has a boyfriend we had been close friends since we were in college when we are in our first yr she said to me that she loved me but at that time i cant love her back because i have already have a girlfriend.. i denied her.i always regret that time and feel stupid..that truly in my heart im also inlove with her.. when we are in 2nd yr she went abroad to be with her family in canada we still communicated time to time... but after 4 years now i've already graduated and i'm already working in a professional medical field.she went back to philippines and we have met again now she has a boyfriend I am already single she will stay for a couple of weeks and then go back to canada.we met, hungout see movies and we haved been happy together again also we spend our vacation together she treat me not just a friend..until something happened and we kissed and even had sex. And at that moment i asked her "do u love me?" and she replied "a little".. now im very confused, i dont know what to do.. should i just move on? or keep loving her.. its very painfull and i dont know what she thinks of me.. just a friend or more than that.. please i need help.. she will go back after 2 wks from now..
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reader, Abella  +, writes (7 April 2013):
 She can remain your platonic friend. But try not to be too familiar with her.
Separately look around further away for your friend for a new girl who can be your own girlfriend.
While this girl you like has a boyfriend she is off-limits as Gf material.
It is proximity and familiarity that may have made you feel attracted to her.
One day she may break up with him, then, if you are also single at the time, only then can you consider making a move to date her, if that is what you want, at some time in the future.
Or alternatively you may find a new girl who you will come to adore and love even more than this current girl you currently like (but who already has a Bf)
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reader, xian31 +, writes (3 April 2013):
xian31 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshould i stop being his bestfriend?
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reader, xian31 +, writes (3 April 2013):
xian31 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the great advice.. i apreaciate it a lot since i got no one to talk about this.. thanks :)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 April 2013):
She is already cheating on her BF with you. I think she likes that she can play the both of you.
You really think if she WAS your GF she would be faithful to you?
I think you are playing with fire and you will end up getting BURNED.
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reader, down2erph +, writes (2 April 2013):
As someone who's been in a very similar situation, I can tell you the best thing I did was practice patience. I say this because after you dive all the way in, it cant be undone. That being said, you shouldn't wait for her. If its meant to be then it'll happen and I'm sure it will. Patience, to make sure its what you really want. No knee jerk reactions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2013): She doesn't love you the way you want to be loved. You've carried this woman in your heart for a long time. You had one sexual encounter, and she was honest with you. She is not that into you, and you should move on and find someone else.
She has a boyfriend, and knowing how you feel about her, you pressured her into having an affair. The end result, she is returning to her boyfriend, and now you know that it was never meant to be for you. Don't waste your life pining for someone who only loves you "a little."
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