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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): well u talk about u friends with all these problems it was my b-day last week and me and my boyfiend thought because im 14 now was the right time. i have bin with him 4 a year but now im pregnent im soooo sacred i dont no what to do i dont wonna keep it im to young i cant tell my parents they will go mad he cant either im scared i dont no what i sould do all i no if i need to get rid of it i cant go throught with it but i havent got the money to pay for an abortion never has my boyfiend im deperst
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2007): i am 14 and i just found out my 15 year old best mate is pregnant neva mind 13 in my opinion i think she should get rid of it she will have her GCSES in a few years i think i wil ruin her sorry to say i think she should get rid good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe decided 2 have an abortion after her talk with the doctor .. she supposably had it the day she was on the phone 2 me . I don't know if she is being truthful :S
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reader, lady 29  +, writes (19 December 2006):
 i recently written and told to tell an adult or mum didnt realise it was foster home bless her she must go to the doctors as soon as possible the doctor will discuss the options available make the right choice her4 its a life long thing an puts a hold on ur own life at ur age and its hard good luck
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reader, lady 29 +, writes (19 December 2006):
she must get help as soon as possible incase ov how far on she is, if she can tell an adult she can trust or maybe talk to her mum, i was 15 an pregnant an i had the baby it was so hard an i had a huge amount of support but i regret my decision although i wud not change my son but u need to live ur life ur only a baby urself sweatheart, go to family planning 4 advice there they r usualy good an will b able to tell u where u go from there or maybe to ur doctor whihc will hav to refer u to the hospital, please dnt ignore this as it wnt go away the longer u leave it the worse it will b, good luck
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reader, scared16 +, writes (17 December 2006):
 first of all she needs to talk someone. this could be a teacher doctor whatever. u can go with her for support n make sure she knows that there are people aronud her to help. they shud b able to talk her thru wot she can do. but if she is thinking about having an abortion then u need 2 go quickly as it may b 2 late x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2006): horrible...im sorry to say...what kind of fosterhome is that? but then...it doesnt work that way. have you tried calling one of those international childhelp hotlines? try them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe doesnt live with her parents she is in a foster home and the farther of the baby lives there too and if they find out they will be moved out
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reader, rachellou13 +, writes (15 December 2006):
 wow...i am not to sure what she should do!first of all stay calm and don`t freak out.also she needs to tell her parents.if she does they will just want to help.this same thing happened in my family only my bro was the dad and he was 16 and she was 14!she wrote her mom a letter and then ran into the bathroom!!my bro just emailed my mom.either one of those should work.even if your friend`s parents seem mad they will be with her for support through all of this if she does have the baby.babies are a gift from heaven and i am against abortion but if your friend feels as though she will not be able to have this baby she is free to make her own decisions.i`m hope i was able to help.hang in there both you your friend and the father.i wish your friend a good luck and tell her i am sending her a warm hug.i am 11 and i would like to here from you and your friend so please email me at [email address blocked] please let me know how things work out.toodles!! lol
from,rachel :-)
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (15 December 2006):
 If she has a really good relationship with her parents, it might help to tell them. If she doesn't, then its better to keep it to herself (everybody knows this kinda crap isn't easy to talk to with parents).
If she's in the UK, abortions are free on the NHS. Check a hospital or GP or something. The sooner the better. And then tell her not to be using the NHS for free abortions again (some of us have to pay taxes for that thing!:-P)
Hopefully she'll learn her lesson after this. The doctors there wont be telling her parents so its up to her if she wants them involved or not
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (15 December 2006):
 She needs to start by telling her parents. Then they need to go to the doctor....to see if it is so. (tests are pretty accurate...testers are not)
Maybe your could help her and be with her for moral support...but don't get involved in family arguments...once the tale is told make your graceful exit...because the parents will want to talk alone with her. (perhaps if they had talked to her BEFORE now...she would not Be in this situation.)
What ever she chooses just make sure she knows you will continue to BE her friend....and keep her secret until SHE decides to tell someone.
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reader, the_nameless_one +, writes (14 December 2006):
okay... teenage pregnancy...
do the girls parents know?
if i were some adult (which i'm not) then i'd tell you that she needs to talk to her mum or dad.
However, being a teenager myself, i understand that that would probably be one of the most frightening things ever, but if she can, the she should go for it.
So, you can work around that.
Tell the father, remember, it's his baby too. But don't let him force your friend to have the baby if she doesn't want to. Remember, it's her who has to have that baby, not him.
Family planning clinics are always good to go to for advice. However, the anonymity may vary depending which country/state you live in.
Just remember to stay calm.
As Dashboard Confessional once said
'remember to breathe and everything will be okay'
all the best
xxnamelessxx
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