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writes:Hello everyone. I'm a 29 year old male and a bit shy. I've always been described as the tall dark and handsome type and haven't really had much difficulty having a girlfriend or anything. Like I said though, I'm a bit shy. It's only at first. Once a conversation gets going, I'm fine. It's just starting the conversation. I'm single at the moment and I get the bus to and from work Monday to Friday. I have a car but choose not to use it to make the commute to work for economical reasons. Anyway, the problem that I've got at the moment is that there is a woman that gets on my bus every day, both on the way to work and on the way home. She's incredibly beautiful and I mean she's the most beautiful woman that I have ever laid my eyes on. Really. Her eyes are so beautiful and dark that they're like chocolate and I think about her quite a bit. My stomach flutters when I see her. I'd put her around 35 - 38 being realistic but it doesn't bother me and nor should it. About a month or so ago, I noticed her looking at me but she looked away. A couple of weeks later, she began to sit next to me on both journeys. Their were other seats available. Her leg was crossed towards me. I know that they say that if their leg is crossed towards you then that means the person likes you etc. But I'm not sure if that's true or not. The past week, if she's not sitting next to me then she's sitting in front of me and occasionally turning round to smile. She also says "Hello" when she gets on the bus. I smile back and say "Hello" of course. I mentioned it to a couple of friends at work and they both agree that I must start a conversation with her if I like her and they seem to agree that she likes me too. What if I'm wrong though? Some of you may think that I need to 'man up' or something but as a shy person it can really be difficult sometimes. Plus, I'm on a bus full of people and we get on and off at different stops. What can I say to get a conversation going? I'm hoping that she'll start one and make it easier for me but she may be waiting for me to start to make it easier for her, perhaps? Either way, what do you think?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 July 2011):
 Well all the signs are there. She is friendly towards you, and if she is crossing her legs in towards you that is a sign that she is comfortable around you and possibly that yes she does like you. It does sound to me like she is trying to get your attention and yes she probably is waiting for you to start a conversation.
Off course it can be hard to start a conversation randomly with somebody you don't know and being shy makes it worse off course. But I guess you just need to pluck up the courage from somewhere. Don't sit and think about it when she comes on the bus just open your mouth say hello and ask her how she is. You will need to think about talking props I guess so that you have a few ideas on conversation starters. You share a bus journey so maybe ask her about her work and talk about the dreadful bus journey you both have to endure ect. Ask her what she does with herself does she like her job ect. Also remember to keep smiling.
If you don't feel comfortable asking her questions like this well maybe making something up would be a good start, say hello to her and say I have been meaning to talk to you for the last while, I have a sister or even a female relative's birthday coming up and saying as you are a female I was wondering if you could help me think up some gift ideas. Something simple like that can get a conversation flowing. Just try and use your imagination. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2011): you're situation is very cute . just like a movie (: anyway .. the way to talking to girls is starting off as a "hello how are you ?" & working you're way up to "it's a very nice day today" & even to anything like saying "how did you spend you're 4th of july" things like that . dont get TOO personal but general . smooth in ...
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