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writes:On Xmas day my Girlfriend of 2 years left me. We where living with her parents while we saved for our own place. The reasons she gave me was because it had become difficult with her family. The relationship was a good one many happy times together we laughed so much. We planned our future together.Since Xmas day lots of things have gone on. She changed her number as i txt her a lot. She went to New York without me over valentines and when she got back she has now stopped talking to me. But during this period apart we have met up once she cried when we met up saying that it was strange. We then kissed hugged it had so much passion. She has admitted that she has missed me and asked if i was seeing anyone over valentines. She even said that she was said that i was not going to New York with her. When she got back from New York she said that through out all this i never gave her a grand gesture to show her that i was willing to fight for her so she had lost respect. I sent flowers etc but i said to her the grandest gesture would be to treat her like the special person she is once again. I really love this girl never enjoyed life as much as i have when we where together. Right now and i guess in the past i have been a pest ie calls, emailsWhat can i possible do to win her back????
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reader, KITTYKITTY09  +, writes (10 March 2009):
 wow..she reminds me of my ex boyfriend of two years..she's not ready for a real relationship at all..she's not ready for a real man..just like my ex wasnt ready for a real woman..most people end good relationships because they get scared..they feel that it will get even more deeper to the point they wont be able to see other people and date them..they get that forever scare so they end the relationship..alot of young people get this way but not all young people are like that..because im just 20 and i want the real thing..but as for u ..in the mean time just wait some weeks and see if she will call u or contact u some way.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (10 March 2009):
 She is clearly playing games with you I'm afraid, to claim that she wants a grand gesture from you is just childish. She is living in a fantasy world where she thinks relationships should be like they are in the movies.
If you really want her back more than anything then I guess you are going to have to do something really big that will be incredibly embarassing for you. I could give you a million ideas, something stupid like richard gere in pretty woman where at the end he turns up to her apartment with a rose in his teeth hanging out of the sunroof of a limo. Totally cheesy but you get the point.
But if I were you, I wouldnt lower myself to doing something so stupid for a girl. While you love her, why should you have to prove yourself to her? Why should you have to make a grand gesture when she ended it with you? You have treated her right, and all you ever did was love her. She should be the one making grand gestures to you trying to get you back!
This is all up to you - if you are happy degrading yourself and doing something embarrassing for her then maybe you should watch some daft rom-coms (Pretty Woman, Office and a gentleman, anything with richard gere or hugh grant really!) to get some ideas. But I doubt that she will be happy even if you do something huge to show her how much you care. But if you have some sense then give up on this girl, she is too immature for a serious relationship and you will be wasting your time as she will probably end it again in the future.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): I cant believe you she actually talked about some grand gesture, or losing respect for you because you couldnt reel her back in!
Haha...her loss. Your better off without this one. Chalk it up to a good time, and move on to a girl based in reality.
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