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writes: Hi all, I'll keep it short. Basically I met this guy (S) in October while I was seeing someone else (J). Both S and I fancied each other but nothing happened as I was taken. We bumped into each other again some weeks later and swapped numbers, and started texting and speaking to each other regularly. We saw each other a few times but apart from a kiss, nothing much happened. We both developed really strong feelings for each other and he never held back from telling me how much he felt for me and how he wanted to settle down. Anyway, we got together at the end of Jan and everything was really good...then a few weeks later I was going through a rough time and I know I was a bit moody with him. He accused me of trying to treat him like I treat my other lap dogs (no idea what exactly he meant by that) and since then I've noticed he has cooled off a lot towards me, i.e been colder, more distant.. doesn't text so often and is less affectionate. In mid April he is due to move to another part of the UK and whereas before he always said he wanted to see how things went with us, now he is convinced they won't work out and says although he really likes me, he knows it will end in tears. When he's drunk he's let it slip that he thinks I'll cheat on him... which I wouldn't, and I've tried telling him how much I do like him! I'm gutted because I like him sooo much, and from the moment I first met him I've always had this feeling that he's the right one for me. Even up til a couple weeks ago he was saying how much he cared for me and how unused to these feelings he is....We had a big argument a few days ago and since then haven't spoken. I don't know what to do!! I know he genuinely cares for me (long story, but I know!) and even now he is still saying if he wasn't moving away we'd stay together... What can I do to prove to him I won't mess him around? In fact - what can I do just to get back with him and make things normal with us again?! I'm so upset and can't think about anything else. I don't want to be too full on and come across as a total bunny boiler.Please help!
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (8 March 2006):
 I think you are flogging a dead horse, he is moving away and is not that interested, he likes you then he likes you less, he just is not ready for a full on relationship with you.
But I maybe wrong and it maybe that he is just hurt by the way you spoke to him and this has made him doubt his feelings for you, maybe he does not feel that you are committed to having a relationship with him that is as intense as he would like.
He is protecting his heart by putting up a wall and trying to put you off him so he does not get hurt.
Maybe it is time to sit him down and talk to him about how you feel and how committed to a relationship with him you would be, if you cannot do this face to face, then write him a letter.
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (8 March 2006):
 I was kinda in the same situation. I met my now boyfriend while I was with my ex boyfriend. Eventually, he'll get over it. Only time will let him know that he is your one and only.
Good Luck hun!
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