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writes:What can I do to make my fiance ease up on his sometimes jealous ways?I am a gay male and I'm 21 years old. My fiance is 33 years old. He's just proposed almost 2 months ago and our marriage date is scheduled for next July. I've never had a problem with him, and we've honestly never fought much and I don't want to use the "jealous" term too loosely. It seems that just lately he's been questioning where I'm going, which is fine, and not in an agressive manner or anything. He gets kind of mad when i don't spend alot of time with him, which I know is because he honestly misses me. He has a very busy and hard working career and he's on call alot of the time, so I can understand.Can someone please just give me some tips to kind of show him that I'm here, and I'm not going anywhere. That he can trust me and that I won't hurt him? He was severely hurt in his last relationship and now I think he's just afraid of being hurt again. He's recently told me that he was feeling a little separated from us, which I can't understand because I'm here! Neither of us beleive in divorce, so we both know if we get married, it's forever!Any tips on what I can say or do for him?
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reader, bigbenlondon  +, writes (12 November 2007):
 Talk to him, ask him if he has any insecurities as you prepare to go into the future and just address them honestly.When you feel insecure it can cloud your judgement - trust me i know! - this is why he seems to act jealously at times. He is just looking for a little reassurement. Personally I think doing something unexpected is great for settling those insecure feelings, you can't beat a good present!
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reader, Shakeel +, writes (12 November 2007):
 Hey! I know how u feel. You should just try to spend some time with him and try to keep him happy. Avoid any kind of arguments but must knock him if he is doing something really wrong. Try to get closer to him and occasionally ask him if there is anything he'd like to tell u. Sometimes, people want to say something to their partner but wants the partner to guess that he/she wants to talk about something. Just stay cool and do ur best to make ur relationship work.
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