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*urtin4him
writes:My partner and I are going through some tough things. We've been dating since Sept 2006 and I did wrong to him. I always said I would never cheat on him n I did. I kissed his best friend and talked to another guy behind his back. We weren't a couple after the 1st situation but I was trying to make things better. I also lied to him n that made things even worse bcuz he found out without me telling him. Now he doesn't trust me n thinks I had sex with both his friend and the other guy. I didn't have sex with either one but since I didn't communicate with him my chances are slim. I regret doing the wrong to him and wish I couldve communicated with him and told him. Now I'm stuck trying to make him trust me. I know he will always hang what I did wrong to him over my head but what can I do to make him trust me again? I don't want to lose him, I love him and its been the longest relationship for me.
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reader, lilliar +, writes (17 November 2008):
well i have this boyfriend over the comp. when i was dating my other bf khleo and he got jealous and i lied to him a couple times an dnow he wont come bak.... so if u lied to him and cheated u shud always keep a stable relationship and think about ur bf the one who cares about u the most.
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reader, Merisier +, writes (30 May 2008):
I feel you bro. Mine was worst than yours. A month 2 weeks after I started dating my boyfriend I had sex with another with another guy on the I was suppose to with him for a date. He kept on calling me but I didn't pick and I sent him a text telling him that my job has call me to come to work. In another word, I lied to him that nite. But 2days after I just think it wasn't for me to be like that so I call him and him the truth. Till today everytime we are fighting, he always mention what I did that nite to him. I don't think he ever forgive me even he said so. Anyway all I'm trying to say you shouldn't kep the secret from him. If you really love go to him and talk to him and be honest. I know it will be hard for him to trust you back but giving him time. You just have to be honest and communicate cause that is the key of a relationship.
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reader, jinxx  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 Let him go for now. Maybe that seems a little counter-productive at this point, but trying to convince him you're sorry and haven't done quite what he thinks you have at this point would probably cause more damage than good. Point is, he doesn't trust you and has good reason not to. Figure out what was wrong with the relationship, or with you, that caused you to stray elsewhere, and lie to your partner. Only when you figure out what the problem is, will you be able to fix it...and stop lying!! Give it a few weeks, maybe a month, and ask to meet up for a coffee or w/e to talk. He might be up for it, he might not be, but the point is make an effort to see him and talk things through. Maybe you two wont get back together and live happily-ever-after, but he might be able to regain some trust in you and you could salvage something else, the friendship.
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