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writes:My girlfriend went out with this guy and now I think he wants her back. Me and her have been going out about 4 months and she doesn't want him back but what can I do to let him know that he isn't getting her back and that I'm in charge.. thanks all the best Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 I agree with the girls, but I'm afraid they have not considered a possibility, remote as it is. You know, sometimes there are guys out there who just cannot accept their former girlfriend is with someone else, and they tend to say things that make the new boyfried look like a wussy. It's not they don't understand their girlfriend is happy with someone else; it's just that they want to "reclaim" the person they see as "their property". In this particular case, I say, speak to the man. Otherwise, ignore him.
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reader, LauraE +, writes (9 July 2007):
He will know he can't have her back because you are still together and she isn't responding to him. If you approach him, it's like admitting that you are afraid she might go back, so I would do or say nothing at all to him. Your only issue is with your girlfriend, and if she is doing nothing to encourage him, then you have nothing to worry about. She does have a choice in this you know - if she doesn't want him, it won't matter how much he wants her. The only time you intervene is if he makes your girlfriend uncomfortable with his attentions - then you speak to him in order to support her.
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reader, rambini +, writes (9 July 2007):
 to be honest with you, i think it wud b even more direct if it came from ur gf, as thts the person he is interested in. but the fact that she is with u n not him, n has been for 4 months with no intention of wanting him back should be enuf 4 u 2 c tht this guy is no threat to u. u need to put aside your insecurities as these are bad! lol i no i have lots, n they lead to jealousy which is a definate relationship destroyer! good luck x x
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reader, flower girl +, writes (9 July 2007):
 Just make sure you and your girlfriend stay strong and united and he will soon get the message.
Don't worry about trying to tell him as actions speak louder than words.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (9 July 2007):
I say, speak in person to the man. That should give him a strong message, I guess. Just make sure what his intentions are before you make yourself embarrassed.
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