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writes:Hey I have a few concerns tht id really like some advice on. I've been with my boyfriend for about a month now, but ive had feelings for him for sometime. Recntly I gave my boyfriend and hand job and he did the same to me and then peformed oral sex on me. This brings my first problem 1. I want to perform this on him but im afraid I won't live up to his expectations. I'd rather not do it, than do it abd make a fool of myself...any advice on how I can ensure I do it properly?And2. This was the first person I've done any of this with and im afraid if I rush into things, he will get bored with me quickly. Should I wait in order to prolong our relationship?Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2008): Dear Poster
Tips for (Fellatio) oral sex on men:
1. Talk to your boyfriend about what he likes.
2. Try it slowly, possibly kiss and lick around his body including his genitals and penis to see how comfortable you feel.
3. Your mouth is not a vagina, so don't try to make it one. This means that you don't have to make it do what your vagina does - it can be uncomfortable to hold your mouth open that wide for any length of time and you don't have to. You can take the penis into your mouth repeatedly - beware of teeth, use tongue and lips.
4. Experiment with licking and sucking all over the penis (and testicles) - ask him for feedback. Variety of movement can help.
5. Use your hand at the same time to increase tempo or firmness around the penis.
6. Make sure you are in a position where you can move away if he feels the urge to thrust as this could make you gag and put you off. Make sure you are both comfortable - you can be kneeling on the floor with him standing,or both on the bed with him lying down; or even on your sides; you can be both heads in same direction, or 'head-to-toe' - this could allow him to stimulate your orally at the same time if you like...
7. Discuss with him in advance what you're going to do when he ejaculates,(if he is not using a condom) you may or may not want it in your mouth.
8. I suggest you do take precautions because there are
diseases that are transmissible via unprotected oral sex; such as: herpes, gonorrhea, syphilis and hepatitis. A low risk also exits for contracting HIV (the virus that causes Aids) during oral sex.
As for your second question;
I suggest, you should only proceed when you feel ready and comfortable; I doubt if he would get bored with oral sex;
Best wishes and lots of SMILES
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (7 September 2008):
 Just to continue with Qcumbrs ice cream analogy ... like ice cream there is no such thing as a bad blow job(*) only good and great so don't be too concerned. He will love you just for having a go. Pay attention to his reactions and you will see what works and what doesn't.
Personally I would suggest that you avoid the cumming in the mouth business for now. It is pretty safe as long as you have no piercings but always a good idea to hold something back.
* there is always an exception to every rule, of course. If you wear braces on your teeth then take care around the bit where the foreskin attaches to the top (technically the "frenulum") . There was a young couple in my college at university who had to go to the emergency room (by taxi) to be separated and that is probably not something that you would want to be known for.
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reader, Nate89  +, writes (7 September 2008):
I don't want to sound too much like a relationship pamflet or anything. But if you need sex to prolong a relationship, its not the right one. Give it time, you don't have to move so quickly. I first had sex when I was 16, looking back on it now, I realize that it may have been to early. If you are dead set on don't really worry about messing it up. If the boy has never had one before, it doesn't really matter what you do. If he has, just start and he will tell you what to do. Sex isn't supposed to be stressful. But back to my original point, make sure you want to start that sort of thing now.
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