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writes:I have been in a relationship with a girl for three-and-a-half years. We fell in love from the start. It was freshman year in high school during a school trip to Disney. We are the longest remaining relationship from our school and were voted High School Sweethearts. Everyone agrees we are great for eachother. I love her so much, but the last few days we have felt a falling apart. We don't feel the same but we are scared and still want to spent the rest of our lives together. She is the most important thing in the world to me. We think it may be because we are both in college and have more time together. We are both just in shock. We just want it to go back to the way it was. We are going to ease in to the amount of time together. Is that the right thing to do? Why is this so different? Why can you care for someone so much, but not be in love? Aren't I in love?
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reader, Nate89 +, writes (22 September 2008):
Nate89 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOK. So we are much better. Although I still feel doubt now and then. It still hurts. But, I now know it is possible to make it through this. I will always love her, even if we were to break up. She is special. Anyways, I think I may be having major mood swings, or some sort of depression. I feel funny a lot and keep thinking of our relationship. I just want to enjoy the time I have with her so I might be going to conselling. I hope this will fix my doubts. Wish me luck. BTW thank you Aunty Em, for your comment.
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reader, Aunty Em  +, writes (7 September 2008):
 It's possible, it is. But I think you both might need time apart to realise it!
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reader, Nate89 +, writes (7 September 2008):
Nate89 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answer. I really hope that we can continue the relationship, but... I just don't want to leave her, will the love come back?
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (7 September 2008):
Maybe you two have just grown apart. It's a perfectly natural occurence within relationships - though often devastating as you never see it coming. You agree you both want to spend the rest of your lives together, but if you don't 'love' each other (in the sense of a relationships) no longer, you can't really continue this relationship. Maybe you do need slight time apart - see if it changes anything. If it doesn't, I think you both will spend the rest of your lives together, just as amazing best friends.
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