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writes:I am in love with a girl, and she is in love with me, it's been this way for quite a while now, but her mom found a dirty conversation between us and hates my name, she has never met me before but I don't want to go into the relationhip with lies of who I am or what I did, please help me decide what it is I can do to be together with her, we always talk about it but we can't figure a solution.she is an only child and she only lives with her mom, so it's all she has, i don't want her to cause a whole problem with her mom just for me, please help me.I'm 16 years old, and so is she. Reply to this Question
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reader, PaigeM1403 +, writes (7 April 2009):
Well, to start with i think you should talk to the girl quietly and make sure you both want the same thing. If you do, then go and talk to the mum with her. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): Yeah I would make sure to tell your gf, to tell her parents that you two are going to take a break and that it was your idea to do that so her and her mom wouldnt have problems. Emphasize to her to tell her mom that it was your idea and why you wanted to so that you look like a decent concerned young man who cares about her and her moms relationship. MAJOR brownie points!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): Wait until this dies down a bit...say a few weeks. It's obvious to me that your gf's Mother, has considered this dirty conversation between you and her daughter, a sign of deep disrespect for her daughter and this came as a shock to her. And maybe she's having problems with her daughter entering a serious relationship where 'sexuality' is coming into light. This happens with the majority of adolecsents.
As said above, I think you need to give this situation some much needed time and space. Allow the Mother to have some time to calm down. Time seems to get people to rethink things over, and they remember when they were teenagers and the similar incidents that happened, in their lives. Finding out about this, has made this Mother 'view you' in a most unbecoming manner. This gf of yours needs to be honest and communicate her feelings with her Mother. The both need to maturely talk about this incident. No yelling, no fighting...just a calm discussion.
Your gf needs to reassure her Mom that you are caring, genuine and a young man who only has your gf's best interests at heart. The daughter should also suggest to Mom that when she (Mom) is ready, she would like you and Mom to meet.
So, be patient, bide your time...give this a few weeks to blow over. It could be that Mom is very upset right now. When the time comes to meet, be the classiest, politest young man you can be. And if this 'issue' comes up in the conversation...apologize graciously for upsetting the Mother, show Mom you can and will treat her daughter with honor and respect.... and then hopefully, after proving that, all will be well and everyone can simply move on to a happier time spent together. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): You should go introduce yourself to her parents, tell them that you would never go against her wishes or force her to do anything she doesn't want. And that you wont take if beyond the conversations. If you really like her you should keep trying to convince her parents, even if it seems that they wont change their minds. Unless you want to take it beyond that... You shouldn't lie her parents no matter what, tell them how you feel about her and ask them to at least get to know you better.
But if this is through the net then you should perhaps ask her if she could get her parents to talk with you so you can do all the above.
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