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writes:Okay, here's the deal. I'm basically with this boy.. but were not exactly official! he claims he wants to take this slow.. which is completely understandable being that we both just got out of something hurtful and we've been at it for 2 months now. But the situation is that I'm with him and I'm not holding back. Him, on the other hand, admits to having his guard up. I'm trying, and at times he is also but I feel like I want to give up and that maybe he doesn't care{which gets him mad everytime i say it.) I'm not an insecure person but I wonder what's on his mind.. if maybe he just doesn't feel what I feel for him..what can i do?
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reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 If you both just got out of a relationship do yourself a favor take it REAL SLOW !!! Dont give up and dont get mad at each other cause you feel more or think you feel more then the other dose I am coming out of a 25 yr marriage and you better bet your sweet butt im taking it slow .. If you feel the relationship is worth the wait please do it slow down enjoy your time together get to know each other do little things for each other and you will see in time if it was mean to be you wont be able to wait to see each other he will be ur 1st thought of the day and last of the night and everything will fall in place just take it slow babe .....and vise versa you will see and my thoughts are with you and I hope all goes great for you ............
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): Relax, take it easy. Get to know him better. Allow things to develop at it's own pace. The more you are trying to rush things, the more he will retract and be holding back. Just be yourself and enjoy each other. Allow him to get to know you better and to be more comfortable with you. Don't put pressure on him, that is a sure way to loose him or to keep him at a distance. Have patience.
Arnold Glsow said: "The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg...not by smashing it".
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