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writes:I'm 15 and a virqin and I've never done a lot with a quy but kissinq. Me and my current boyfriend have been toqether for almost three months. I'm qetting really curious about sex and stuff and I'm slowly trying new thinqs. I just got into kissinq his neck lmao. but the thinq is - he tried to do more like put his hands down my pants but I qot nervous and stopped him. It's not that I don't want him to do it but I get too nervous and don't wanna do it. I wanna know how I can be more comfortable with my boyfriend touchinq me like that. I've never done anythinq like that so its all new to me.thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, lauren24 +, writes (18 December 2008):
before you decide to go any further with your boyfriend, ask yourself if this is what YOU really want, or if it's him that wants it and you feel pressure to give in? guys are really good at convincing us girls to do things we aren't entirely comfortable with sometimes, so you want to be sure that you feel complete comfort and trust with him. 3 months is a short time to be dating someone, and losing your virginity is a huge deal. this is something you will remember the rest of your life! there is no need to rush into anything, whether it's sex or fooling around.
to answer your question, there is really no way to 'make' yourself feel comfortable with a guy. you will feel comfortable when the time is right and when that time comes you will know. everyone feels nervous or shy the first time they do stuff, that is natural, but if you don't feel like doing it then you shouldn't. be sure that this guy really cares about you and that he will feel the same about you and your relationship whether you do stuff with him or not. if you do decide to get serious with him, make sure he wears a condom!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): Learning to understand your sexual feelings is important and deciding when you are ready for sexual activities is a big issue. Never allow any person to pressure you to go further than what you really want to, or feel comfortable with. It is your body and it is your choice. Sexual activities have there risks, such as sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancies. Learn to enjoy the loving and caring part of a relationship and as and when you feel ready and comfortable you will gradually feel more condident to experiment more and with more activities. This is sometimes difficult and confusing, but it is part of growing up and begining to take responsibility for your own actions. Don't allow anybody to convince you to do anything against your will. All in due time, as and when you are ready.
"Time is nature's way of keeping everything from happening at once".(Anonymous)
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reader, sandra78 +, writes (18 December 2008):
The easiest way to become more comfortable with the situation, is to slow down. Your simply not ready for that. Don't let him pressure you to go further than what you are comfortable with. If he is a good guy.. He will wait. Your worth it.
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