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writes:Help my friend guys!! About a year ago my friend joined a group on facebook and put a link on its wall to some pictures of her in sexy outfits. A guy messaged her saying that he thought she was sexy. She accepted his friend request even as he said he lived in our town andshe had no idea who he was! My friend she had a boyfriend and this mystery guy on facebook started flirting with her. She gave him her number and fthey started calling eachother and eventually she sent him some pics of her having sex with her boyfriend and pics of her breasts and 'stuff'. Then they started talking about intimite things like his penis size and sex and stuff. When I found out about this I pleaded her to end the correspondence immediatly bit she refused saying it was just fun. Then she jokingly sent him a message with her adress on it so he could 'have some fun'. Well she doesn't lock her doors and it turns out the guy actually RAPED her in her own house. I felt aweful for her bit she didn't want to call the cops. She forgot to tell me this but he didn't use a condom and now she is pregnant with his baby. I feel terrible!!!! What can I do o convince her to call the cops on him?? Oh and she doesn't want an abortion. Help!!
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reader, southernsky21 +, writes (22 August 2010):
Friend,
First lesson learned is, people are gonna do what they want to do at the end of the day. I leaned that the hard way. Secondly, NEVER, EVER, joke about sex on the internet with strangers. Your best friend new better than that, especially with a boyfiend. Did the boyfriend know what she was doing, of course not.Now this baby has ruined their relationship and has caused her trauma.
Your friend should send that bastard to jail where he belongs. Help her to understand that her body is a gift, and by her not doing her civic duty to put this offender behind bars, he will just continue this pattern with other women. Also, consider this. How many folks other than herself are in this group? She will be responsible for so man other insecure women getting raped by this pervert, simply because she said nothing.
Lastly, I am so sorry that you've had to see your friend go thru this, and I'm sorry that your friend experienced what she did. If she wants to keep the babe, I'm sure she has good reason, but she shoulnt live as the victim. We must focus on the now, we shouldnt dwell on the past nor worr about the future. Right now, there is a disgusting stain on society raping another woman, and your friend can put an end to it. I leave you with this question, and be sure to ask her this; What if she wasn't the first one he did this to, and if she isn't, what if the previous victim had called the cops? Your friend would have never been raped.
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reader, Lilylove1 +, writes (22 August 2010):
Lilylove1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTrust me guys, I don't know anything more to the story, but thank you all for your warnings and apparent worry for me. Thank you all
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 This story doesn't make any sense! I'm not trying to be mean, but your friend has terrible judgement to give out personal information to a stranger on the internet. I'm worried about the baby! This is horrible... what's wrong with this girl? And why am I sensing that there's more to the story??
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (21 August 2010):
 Yes.. it dosen't make sense on so many level's, but if she's going to the police then hopefully they can deal with the whole thing...
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reader, Lilylove1 +, writes (21 August 2010):
Lilylove1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAskoldersister- no, I totally understand your warning, just the one where it said she was lying about being raped? I understand the person who said that, too, my only thing is she doesn't have any reason to be ashamed about having sex, if it WAS her agreement to have sex with him, she has no reason to, her parents know she's sexually active and frankly they could care less her mom actually had her when she was 15 so they really don't give a crap p.s. My friend already was calling the police after the first answer and she told them where he lived.. News for me!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (21 August 2010):
 Thank god, I feel better knowing I helped u and ur friend get to this first step! Everything will be alright.
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reader, Lilylove1 +, writes (21 August 2010):
Lilylove1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, I know it is 'Springer-esque' but I am just saying what I heard. And I didn't believe that he came to her house either at first until I learned he only lived a block down from her and he knew her, actually he had been stalking her. I just got my friend to look at all your replies and she is going to call the police in fact she is right now, i saw all the messages on facebook and everything, so sorry guys, but it's real. Face it life can get ugly not everythings perfect. :/ thanks for your advice guys
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reader, kupid1.0 +, writes (21 August 2010):
i dont know but that is just wrong.she should lock her house.does her boyfriend know?if he does, doesnt he have a problem with that? i can believe that she isnt calling the cops on him!and now she pregnant?i would take the baby and never let him/her see him.if he does that sick stuff,its definetly not safe for the baby! if he gets ahold of the baby,then he might teach her/him to be a prostitute! you have my pity.its bad enough to actually endure this shit, but if youre a friend that wants to help her, and shes refusing to do whats right,thats even harder then dealing with it yourself.
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