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writes:Hello Everyone.Lately I am feeling very depressed, normally I am a really happy going person, but 2010 hasnt really been my year...This year Ive lost a good friend and his passing has been hard on meMy girlfriend cheated, lied, broke up with me got pregnant got back with me and now smothers meI go to school and Im trying as hard as I canI work at a job where Im constantly being put downThen I come home to be put down more and any conversation I ever have with my father is about my academic failuresIts all just too much at once, Im not suicidal I just want to be happy again.So I was wondering if anyone has any advice on somethings I can do to cheer up and balance my life, cause at this point I dont see the point anymore.All adivice is appreciated.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (24 November 2010):
 This is how we grow. Life tends to shove tests down our throats and expects us to keep breathing. So gasp.
You are not alone in this. There are many people, of all ages, who give their hearts to someone, only to have them torn asunder by carelessness and greed. It is okay. Talk to your girlfriend about it, I think she is trying to make up for cheating on you by smothering you. Just talk to her about it.
Talk to your Father about his words. They hurt you in one way or another do they not? Tell him that you are sorry you cannot be the genius he wanted but you are trying your best and you can only continue to give your best because you want to make him proud (if that is true). He can help you, tell him that you need him to support you instead of trying to snap your confidence in two like dry wood.
As for your job, there is little you can do there. Keep striving to do your best. This year is nearly over and a new one is arriving. Keep smiling, take time and appreciate all the beauty you see around you. There is much to be found in everything.
Keep a journal and pour your thoughts out into it so you can see for yourself, how brilliant you are despite how worthless your father makes you out to be. See how much your heart is worth to some people where they once took it for granted. Finally, see how strong you will have become after keeping your head held up high like I KNOW you can because I know that you can make it through this jagged time in your life, it will only serve to strengthen you. Do not lose faith in anything, things change and I suspect that your life will soon change for the better because all your hard work will pay off.
I hope that helps.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 November 2010):
 Change the things you don't like. Set a goal for yourself and just go and DO it.
Have problems at work? Deal with it. Don't like your girlfriend? You know what you gotta do, leave her. Don't like your living conditions? Move. Take action and control over your own life.
You could also look into going to therapy to talk things over and this will help you recover from the loss of your friend.
The best advice I can give you is to set a goal for yourself and where you want to be, then work towards that goal. Then you will have something to look forward too. It can be anything from next years vacation to loosing weight, to finally getting around to reading that book you always wanted to read or whatever you want!
And do remember, others go through hard times as well. Im not saying to so you should compare how much worse anyone else feels, no, the thing is that others face different problems that you do not have. Because you DO have resources to stay away from certain problems, and knowing that, and knowing what resources you do have, will make you more aware of your own opportunities and options. You have choices others might not have. Take good advantage of that. Do not let yourself get trapped when you can be free.
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