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41-50,
*hriskerman
writes:my girlfriend of 12 years left me for someone else. and she has kicked me out. i have no friends or family and i am very shy so i dont talk alot. now i just sit in a room on my own all the time. i feel isolated and lonly. what can i do to change this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): Is it possible that you had relied to healivy on her for all your needs, maybe even making her feel isolated and lonely like you. Have you allowed her to have other friendships and if so why didn't you connect with others. The best thing to do is stop foucing on her and her new found life and consintrate on making you better and fulfilled. You should seek concelling in order to pinpoint why you are not socal because everyone needs people in there lifes. A good place to start is also going to chruch or singles groups and or try going out of you way to help others with everyday things and this is likely to start confersation. Remember to be yourself and tell people what your going through. Everyone in one point in there lifes have felt this way, everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): I'm sorry. There not enough information to support a good and well thought out answer. Why did she leave? Do you have co-workers? No family, meaning they don't live near you? Please add to this so people can respond and get a clearer picture of the cirumstances your facing and to better understand them.
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reader, Blonde_J +, writes (1 July 2010):
Only one solution. You've got to get out there. I know it can be scary. Start off small. Seek out people with similar interests - a sports team, a book club, anything. Look online first if you find that less threatening. Most cities have social networking sites (not neccessarily dating sites)set up to help people make new friends that arrange activities. It really sucks what happened to you and I know it hurts but I think you'll find that if you make the effort people will pay it back. Don't lock yourself away feeling low - you do have other options, you just have to concentrate on keeping busy. People will come. Good luck. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): Start chatting with someone online, make new friends. Look for someone who's nearly got the same qualities as you. Get yourself a dog and go for a walk everyday, you might meet someone interesting. ride bike or go jogging in the mornings, this way you might also meet someone.
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