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writes:So I've been with my girlfriend for about a year now. Since I've known her, she's always taken her car to work. Suddenly, like for the past 2 weeks, she hasn’t done this. I only found this out because I drove past her house to make sure all was ok there. So I asked, “why don't you take your car to work anymore?” She replied, “I'm trying to eliminate costs.” She told me she takes the train to work now. I think there is a 50/50 chance she's lying. She might be getting a ride from someone else, or she might just be home and lying to me twice by saying she's at work, and then saying she took the train and really still be home, or she maybe not working and out with someone else, or she maybe telling the truth. What should I think, what should I believe? In the past she has always been honest, but now she doesn't really lie to my face, but she does omit things. In the past she was detailed about her day, and now not so much. If I ask, it’s a problem. What can I do to catch her in a lie if it is a lie, and what should I believe???
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (22 February 2011):
Well. Why do you think, all of a sudden, she's lying to you? I mean, you say she's been honest in the past.
Anyway, if you are really unsure about her. You will have to set a trap. Which can result a bad thing to you, if she happens to not lie you and she realizes you are setting a trap for her.
You can do hundreds of things. Like showing up at her house before she comes back from work, let's say with flowers. Then, if she's already there you will know right in that very moment. If not, you wait for her to come back and you will see if she's getting a ride. Of course, the flowers are an excuse for surprising her.
I don't know if you can do this. But I guess you can adapt it to your possibilities.
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