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writes:I would like to go farther with my boyfriend, but I dont know how to discuss or bring it up with him. He always tells me he wnats to but never does anything like we always make-out but i want a little more like feeling up or just like touching each other. How do i bring it up with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, slrbabes  +, writes (27 May 2009):
 Although it can be awkward to talk about with any couple, it shoudn't really be awkward to touch each other! When both partners are really ready for sex, then it just sort of happns naturally, with one taking the lead, but the other not just following. It sounds to me like if he hasn't got his hands all over you when you're making-out, he isn't really ready.
If you don't feel comfortable directing his hands or going straight in with your hands, you could try the art suggesting! Try going for a shower then just appearing in a towel in front of him, or ask him to get in the shower with you! Talking about sex doesn't have to be so formal and scary. Talking about the big thing makes both of you feel more comfortable with the small things like touching and caressing :)
Hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): Not something you really talk about, it's something you do when you are in the moment that will be more effective. Touch him more while you are making out. Put his hands where you want him to touch you, etc. If he doesn't respond or objects, then is the time to ask if he's uncomfortable or what's going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): Yes, that really is the best way. Sometimes things like that are just too awkward to talk about in the beginning, so you have to just get the courage up and put your thoughts into actions instead of words.
It's easiest if he's wearing a button up shirt to jsut start unbuttoning it and see what he does from there. Guiding his hands to your body is another goos option.
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reader, griffingirl +, writes (26 May 2009):
You don't necessarily have to talk about it. When you're making out gently lay your hands on his butt. Or you can GENTLY guide his hands where you want them. If he pulls away you'll know that he is not ready for that kind of thing and wait a while and try it again.
Good luck, hope it helps.
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