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*sLaverne
writes:Well, I have my bestfriend who's a boy. Now the thing is that I fancy him and he knows it. Once he told me that he thinks that i;m beautiful but he doesn't want to go out with me coz he is afraid that he doesn't imagine us more than just friends and coz he's not ready for a relationships(it's coz he used to go out with our other bestfriend and it ended).But the thing is, everyone thinks we are a couple and for joking we play as if we are a married couple. I'm really confused. Sometimes we also go out together alone.When I c all d others think that we r a couple it means that they are seeing something that he is not seeing or at least not admitting that it is there...What can i do? should i stop being his bestfriend so maybe i have a chance to be his girlfriend?
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reader, samsmommy  +, writes (27 December 2008):
 He might not want to date you because if you guys did date, and you broke up, then you most likely wouldn't stay friends, and having you as a friend is better to him than not having you at all. You guys should talk about it and agree that you have to remain friends if you break up. Maybe you should try just a couple of casual dates at first and see how it works out. I wouldn't stop being his bestfriend just so you can date him though, you can be his girlfriend and his best friend. Hope I helped.
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reader, MsLaverne +, writes (27 December 2008):
MsLaverne is verified as being by the original poster of the question We are 18 yr old btw. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): You don't mention both of your ages but you express your thought very clearly and give the impression of being a very inteligent person, but is seems that when we fall in love a lot of thing get confusing from our perspective because feelings are not easy to detect when other people are not that expressive. The message he gives you may sound beleivable but could also be deceiving. For some of us is extremely dificult to be open when we think we can hurt someone else's feelings. In few words: If you are in love with him, my opinion is that you are going to feel bad being only his friend but you may feel that is going to hurt you even more to stop being his friend. I think the best thing for you is to stop your friendship and if he ask tell him the truth. He then is going to have only the choice you want and if is not what he wants he is going to be out of your life and you are going to be able to get your chance with someone else.
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