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writes:Ok. Well im seventeen and like most teenagers, i have a myspace. Well i met this boy and we began talking a whole lot. We got closer and closer each and every day. I really began to like him. He like acorss the country from me though but we were from the same state. Well he was coming home to visit his family and while doing so he supprised me by showing up to visit me and take me to meet his family and friends and everyone. He then asked me to be his girlfriend. Of course i said yes. This boy is everything ive ever wanted and more. Well..over time he has developed grade 2 cancerous brain tumors. /3 When i found out i completly broke down. He now lives with me and im terrified that he might die even though he promises me he wont. He goes through so much pain and it kills to see him like this. I know im only seventeen and i know most people are going to say "oh she'll get over it theres plenty of fish in the sea" because thats always everyones response. So if its yours please keep it to yourself. But heres my question.... I think my boyfriend may be dying... What should i do? :'(
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): my boyfriend has a brain tumor too! :'( hes going through chemo right now until september. (he's had two surgeries but its inoperable now) and he'll be getting an mri wednesday in boston. i'm terrified to lose him. we have been dating 5 months but we have gotten so close. I think you and i are going through the same thing :( I don't know what I'll do without him! we're not much younger than you but keep me updated. I know it's tough :( just think that he's strong and you guys can push through. you are in my thoughts :)
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reader, mrantarctica  +, writes (14 May 2010):
 Contrary to some of the posts floating around here - Grade 2 (and Grade 1) brain tumors are considered low grade and generally have good results with treatment.
Make sure he sees a doctor regularly. You cannot cure his brain cancer or make him live any longer, but an experienced team of doctors and surgeons can, and they do - every day, for young people just like your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): People told you that you will get over it and there are other fish in the sea? Usually people say that when there is a break up, not when it is over someone dying...that is just cold. A breakup you can get over, but someone you love that dies, well that stays with you for the rest of your life.
He may have promised that he wont die, but no one can promise that. He just doesnt want you to worry. The best thing to do is stay with him, but it wont be easy. Watching someone you love die is one of the hardest things you will ever have to face. You will be in pain for a long time, but eventually you will find acceptance, the pain though wont go. Like I said before, it stays with you.
A worse pain though would be if you leave him because he is dying, many people do this and they face a worse pain, which is regret. They dying hurts because it is out of your hands, but the regret hurts worse because it was within their hands but they chose not to be there. Better to be by his side.
Now there is a possibility that he could recover, but sadly with his condition the chances are slim. If he does die, you should deal with it how ever is best for you.
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reader, LilPixie  +, writes (4 May 2010):
 At 17 you're not too young for love! I'm only a year older than you. I was 16 when I first got together with my boyfriend. We've been together for over a year now and I could not imagine my life without him. If anyone says anything about you being too young just ignore them.
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reader, BabyMoo +, writes (4 May 2010):
BabyMoo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the support guys. And thank you so much for not syaing something about me being to young for love. Or anything. Yall have really helped.
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (3 May 2010):
Just be there for him and let him know that you're there to support him.
No matter how unlikely his chances may seem, don't give up hope. My boyfriends friend had a really bad bike accident last year. First the doctors said that he probably won't make it through, then they said if he does he may not remember some things and will probably not be able to walk/ do anything for himself. He was in a coma for quite a long time before he finally woke up. After about a week he fell back into a coma and everyone thought that he's not gonna make it. Well, he's now been back home for almost 6 months, he still has all his memory and has been learning to walk again. All I'm trying to say is, try to stay positive. And no matter what happens, as long as he's still here, don't give up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): I really feel for you, this is a horrible situation.
As everyone else has said, all you can do is be there for him at the moment. Although, he probably doesn't want you to treat him like a cancer patient, by all means, talk about it when you both need to, but don't make everything about his illness.
I'd also advise going to a therapist to help deal with it, this is a lot of pressure and heartache for you, and talking to someone objective will definitely help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): dont give up hope my boyfriend went out of town witch was supposed to be for a weekend and he got shot in the head the night before he was supposed to come back home that was last month and the pain never seems to go away he survived tho and is in recovery ther is hope that is somthing ive learned spend ever min together i kno what its like to think ur going to loose the love of ur life i watch mine pull through it was the hardest thing ever to c him like that im so sorry for what ur going throgh and i will pray for him and you as i did for my boyfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): Wow, honey this is a really awful situation. But the best thing to do is to be strong for him, and be happy and enjoy the time you have together. Love him and let him love you and cherish what you have, and enjoy eachother! Try not to let the cancer ruin the time you do have together, and dont worry about the future... and hope and pray and go to all the best doctors and find a cure! :)
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reader, kittylvr +, writes (3 May 2010):
 How Old is your boyfriend? If I was you I would move in with him and his family at least you would have someone to give you guys moral support...I'm so sorry this is happening. Just remember to keep praying I feel your pain as I love someone with all my heart and soul.
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reader, Kayie +, writes (3 May 2010):
 Babe im only one year older than you and ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and i couldnt imagine my life without him. I hate it when people say that im young and ill get over things, because no matter what age you are the feelings you get when in love do not change and you are going through the same feelings as someone twice your age would be.I have the greatest sympathy for you and also your boyfriend and in reply to your question i am sorry to say, well there isn't much you can do love. Just be there for your boyfriend and you have to stay strong for both of you. he needs you at a time like this, try to stay possitive. Remind him your'e in this together and reasure him that youll be there till the end! You can both get through this if your love is strong like you say, i wish you the greatest luck x
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reader, single gal  +, writes (3 May 2010):
there s nothing you can do but just be there for him. if you care for him just support him and help him whenver he needs the help. i really hope the best for both of you
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