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Since I lost the baby we just exist together, nothing else!

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Question - (3 May 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 3 May 2010)
A female Canada age 36-40, *rionskarma writes:

Ok here's my problem: I started dating my at the time boss 2 years ago. I liked him so much I gave my notice and quit just so I didnt feel weird about us working and being together. That was 2 years ago, we now live together and for the most part I thought we were very happy. I have 2 small children from a previous relationship that he adores. We had at one time or another even discussed getting married.

And then I found out we were pregnant.... long story short we lost the baby due to complications near term. And now we just exist, I think he feels I let him down. No more plans about getting married, about a house full of kids or even talk of a future together. I dont know how to fix this emotional gap inbetween us and I dont want to lose him.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (3 May 2010):

Honeypie agony auntMaybe you are both grieving, but not sharing the grief. I would suggest you find a counselor or third party to help the both of you move past this together.

*Hugs*

I'm sorry for your loss.

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A male reader, TimmD United States +, writes (3 May 2010):

TimmD agony auntSituations like this are usually best when you have a professional mediator who is able to help you both communicate your feelings better to each other. The loss of a baby like this requires both parents working together to move forward. I suggest you go to see somebody professional, and as a couple... because if it is just you trying to recover from this, it most likely will not succeed.

Good luck and sorry for what happened....

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