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writes: Hello ,im 15 about to be 16 in a couple months im a sophmore at the moment but ill bea junior in high school very soon. i do have a boyfriend he is 16 about to 17 a junior going on to senior year also soon, we have bin dating for 10 months i know him extremely well i do love him and my mom is super anti-boyfriends. ive asked if i could go out such as to the mall cinema his family events all which have came up to my mom saying no! now he is a great guy he is getting sick of my mom saying no and keeping me from him the only way i see him is sneaking around behind my moms back and at school. i love him and i do tell him he shouldnt be going through this and he should maybe move on so he doesnt have to deal with my mom. he always says im crazy and that he loves me to much and we will get through it. i dont exactly know if my mom maybe thinks im not mature enough to be in love or with a boyfriend .maybe she is worried of us having sex or something i really dont know me and my boyfriend are very clean and we've also talked about staying that way! now his family does have a bad impression on my mom due to my boyfriends brother got my cousin pregnant when my cousin was 15 she is now currently 18. his parents would not let my boyfriends brother see my cousin or the baby but now everythings fine. now behind my moms back i went to my boyfriends house and ive met his parents before theyre really very sweet people and my mom found out and threatened to move me schools or state. anything to get away from my boyfriend and any time he invites me to family events and he tells me to ask his mom is always willing to talk to my mom and let her know we will be under close care. my moms so stuborn! whenever i do ask she always says "no,we already talked about this i dont want to get into this convo. again" we have gotten in intense fights because of it i simply dont understand why she wont let me hangout with him and just see him. she knows im not a wild crazy girl im smart and im not gonna do something stupid for 10 months me an my boyfriend have bin through hell! my mom isnt exactly the best mom in the world she does things that are wrong in my eyes shes meen, rude , always yelling me n mom used to have a strong relationship and now its gone down the drain! whenever i ask to hangout with him my dad repeatedly says every single time "your too young to understand ,when you get older youll understand" understand what!? he claims he loves me and he knows whats best for me i clearly do not understand what will happen if i can just see him i have also told them that me and my boyfriend will only hangout at my house with her supervision otherwise we wont hangout she says no. she says when im 18 i can do whatever i want but as of right now i do what she says and follow her rules!! im extremly depressed and stressed about my situation i simply can not handle it i dont know what to do anymore . in my eyes its only normal for a girl in high school to atart dating! please help me . What can i do for my mom to just let me see my boyfriend so i dont have to hide it ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you but no thanks ive met my bf parents theyre sweet they trust him and my mom doesnt trust me. my mom should trust bcus i have bf doesnt meen i wont have respect for my self.its almost a year and no pregnancy has happened and will not happen. my mom has me just as a little slave she doesnt let me show her that i could be responsible in any way. i dont ever literally ever go out. bcus your in your 20's you think your more matture than me but you go ahead have a bf when your 30 but IM NOT. "hon".
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): I completely agree with Jonas. I'm in my 20s' and working and my mom STILL disapproves of my boyfriend. Yes it pisses me off. Its downright frustrating and a very helpless situation, but then i think of it in this way....she's my mom and no mom wud ever want anything wrong to happen with their daughter. She doesn't know my BF the way I do, and similarly with ur mom, she doesn't know ur BF the way you do! She has an idea in her mind about whats good for you, and clearly your boyfriend doesn't fit into the picture.You have to stop arguing, because take it from me...that will never solve anything. Just let things be, with time ur mom will grow to accept him. meanwhile, be responsible, dont let your grades suffer, and dont give ur mom any chance to point a finger at u because of him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): Sorry hon, while you live at home you have to follow your parents' rules. You are very young and with so many teens pregnant no wonder your mom is worried!! I believe she has taken an extreme side but you can't get around it.
Please don't continue this relationship behind her back. When she finds out it will be awful and the situation will only become more restrictive for you. Sit down and have a serious convo with your boyfriend- if he will wait until your parents give the green light to date, he is truly a keeper. Until then, you just don't have much of a choice.
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