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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I finally got in touch with my ex girlfriend after not hearing anything from her in two weeks. She answered my call and told me that her mother passed away. Her step father blames her, and her brothersand sisters wont speak withher. She also told me that she drinks heavily, uses drugs, and hopes to die in another month to be with her mom. She says her mom talks with her in her dreams and tells her to "come to her". I tried to talk some sense into her, but she didn't listen. She told me she is with good friends who are there for her. I asked her what kind of friends allow you to destroy yourself and just watch or even contribute? I offered to buy her a plane ticket to come be with me so I can help and take care of her. She declined. I still love this girl with all my heart and it kills me to hear about this. What can I do for her? I'm half a world away and I feel so helpless. I don't want to know she will kill herself. Is there anything I can do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): If there is anyone who can get to her and intervien, please try to reach out to them and see if they'll make the effort. If she's that messed up, odds are good that she's burned her family to the point where they may not want to come to her aid (again)... It's hard to say, but most addicts turn their own families against them, given what they go through. She needs to hit a bottom, and reach out. If she's drinking, you might get lucky if you can reach some old time AA folks who might attempt to work with her. I'd suggest calling the local AA number in her city and see if they can offer any advice.
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