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writes:I have been married for 11 years and we have a 9 yr old child. Recently I feel that my hubby is not being truthful to me.....I feel he is having a extra marital.....if not an affair......maybe a friendship......stage of relationship with his school mate about which he is not openly telling me....?I'm disturbed because of his hide n seek attitude, but he becomes very hyper whenever I broach the subject to clearmy misunderstanding
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2015): Hello,
Why do you think he is cheating? Please state your reasons like
1. He is not having sex with me anymore.
2. I found lingerie in our house which doesn't belong to me.
If he is older, then it might be simply because his male biological clock ( sex drive has switched to a lower gear) is ticking. He doesn't feel like having sex like he used to.
Many couples divorce because they don't understand each other bodies.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (28 April 2015):
If you think he's cheating and you don't have a history of paranoia then he probably is hiding something from you. It may not be an affair, but it probably is something.
Recently my wife meet a guy and was chatting on Facebook and texting on occasion. I suspected something because she started being secretive with her phone.
I confronted her about it (not necessarily accusing her off cheating, but I thought she may have been) and she came clean and told me about the guy who she had meet while out dancing with another friend. She just liked him as a friend and she thought I'd be upset so she hid it from me.
I asked her if I could look through her texts or messages and she said okay. I chose not to as she deserves privacy, I just wanted to see if she'd let me.
From that point on she didn't hide it from me, even on occasion having brief phone conversations with him in front of me.
I feel like men and women are capable of having friendships with each other, but keeping it secret can lead to infidelity more often.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (27 April 2015):
 Your feelings that he is cheating require evidence. I'd suggest you say nothing to him but set out to figure out ways to gather evidence on what he does when he is not with you. You can hire a private investigator if you have the means to pay for one. However, accusing him of cheating based on a "feeling" that you have is a bad idea because he will have an explanation and, moreover, if he was really cheating then he would find ways to cover up his traces really well. So investigate first and make a determination if he is really cheating or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2015): It is never a good idea to approach someone with such a serious accusation without solid proof. If the accused has any wiggle-room or a conveniently-prepared explanation, they'll use it.
A crafty cheater will cover his/her tracks well, once they know you're onto them. Don't accuse until you have solid evidence you can present to his face; or just take action based on your suspicion, and hire a divorce attorney.
He may not have reacted well; because you may be wrong.
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