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writes: I'm not sure what to do. I have a clingy friend and I've been able to tolerate it for a couple months, but now it's to the point where I'm tired of it. If I don't pick up when she calls me, she repeatedly calls me back until I answer plus she texts me all day.I know that she always wants to talk to someone or do something so she can get away from home but I'm a busy person who can't always be on the phone or hang out. I told her this, but she just talks about me to our mutual friend. She tells her that I am "mad at the world or mad about something." She told her, "What am I suppose to do, not call her?" She then begged my friend to not shut her out like I do.I have been there for her and now she accuses me of leaving her or not being a good friend, when I have been! She has even admitted this to me when I was going through a hard time. She said, "I like how you're here for me, when instead I should be here for you." But that was obviously just a brief glimpse of normalcy, for now I am the "bad guy" and she thinks I'm mad at her.What should/can I do?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 September 2009):
Seriously, I don't believe that you have that few friends that you NEED someone like this in your life.
If she's being a bad friend and bringing you down then slowly remove her from your life.
I used to think that I HAD to stick with my friends because friendship lasts 4 EVA and all the stuff you learn when you are 13.
But I learned an important lesson when I got older and that is, if someone is making you stressed and miserable, is a negative person, and you've tried all you can to help them change ---- then you can't let them drag you down.
You have to let go sometimes to save yourself.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (17 September 2009):
 In my opinion you should try and make yourself as clear as possible to her again. Tell her you don't appreciate her clingyness. If she doesn't change her behaviour she could have a dependant personality disorder, therefore you should advise her for some councelling. Take care !
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