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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend is seriously addicted to online gaming. I have no problem with gaming. But he will miss work, leave early, go to work late, not eat or sleep for days. And, of course gets angry when someone tries to confront him with his problem. His family has also tried to help him. He just gets mad. He is my first love, and as painful as it is... I know it's most likely to late for us. Is there anything I can do to help him though? I still care about him, and don't want to see him hide from the rest of his life behind a computer scree.
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reader, scc  +, writes (10 December 2009):
It's time to get busy. Start going out when he's on the computer do what you want when you want and when he takes time out don't do anything with him your not his entertainment and gamers think very selfishly everything is for them.
Stop seeing him for a while get yourself together if he doesn't want to take time for you how can you be there for him.
You will never get him to stop he will just be nasty about your problem with it not that he has a problem.
Quote from my gamer boyfriend "I'm just venting my anger out online so then you won't get the brunt of it, you wouldn't want that would you?"
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 December 2009):
There's nothing you can do, and he won't change either. Time to move on and find a guy who wants you, not a computer.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (8 December 2009):
 Hun, there is nothing you can do to help him unless he wants to help himself.
You need to move on with your life, I know it will be dreadfully hard, but at this stage you need to look after yourself first.
Look in your local community if there are any support groups for families, they might be able to help you to understand what is happening so that you can come to terms with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): Tell him how it is even if he gets mad. And tell him exactly whats going on with the two of you. Are you leaving him because of this? My ex had a gaming issue too, and his wasn't even as bad as the one you describe. My ex dropped out of uni because he stayed at home playing instead of studying! He tried 3 times, but never even took one exam because after 2-3 months he missed the gaming too much and school needed more time than he was willing to give. He stopped saying hi to me when I came home (we lived together), and he stopped hanging out with me because we never got time to go see a movie or do anything, because his guild (on wow) were always meeting up. He put the game over everything else in his life, and it caused a lot of fights. Also it left me alone because he never had time for me. It was a huge part of why we broke up.
You care about this guy, so let him know that. He has an addiction. He needs to open his eyes and see that before he pushed away everything that is good in his life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): Ugh, this is a hard one. Online Gaming is quite similar to drug addiction. There's a treatment center at McLean Hospital for Online gaming addiction, and there's apparently Online Gamers Anonymous support groups. I would start with the computer addiction website, it seems quite comprehensive.
http://www.computeraddiction.com/
http://www.olganon.org/
(I happen to be a gamer-addict too, but not as severe as that thankfully.) My prayers to you and his family. I hope everything will turn out all right for you all.
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