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writes:What can a guy do to SEXUALLY attract a woman, be it a friend, girlfriend or spouse? I mean what can he do to get a sexual spark in her, to get her mind thinking or wanting, even subconsciously, to do something sexual with him?It's easy for women: wear something showing your legs or cleavage. Press into the guy when u are talking to him, especially with your chest. Make sexual inuendo. I pretty sure a girl would not get excited by a guy pressing into her. Sexual banter is a fine line for a guy as women can easily find it creepy. So, do certain clothes help? Revealing body parts (like girls with their cleavage and legs)? I guess I am not really sure what would make a girl sexually excited by a guys presence at all. Ha ha!What I am not asking are all the things that make a girl feel comfortable or just generally find a guy pleasant (Friendzone !!!). What I am inquiring about are the things that get women HOT, for their spouse, boyfriend, regular friend or person they just met.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2013): unlike almost every other post, i don't care about physical appearance as much as others do. make sure she knows you're into her when a guy talks and looks me dead in the eye, i know he respects me and actually enjoys my company. i love it. try to get close to her without being creepy if you can tell she isn't into it, apologize and create space. accidental brushes when you're trying to walk by or squeeze passed in a crowded room also make me glance twice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2013): You can ask women what they want but that does not always get you the right answer.
How many women say they want an arrogant jerk who uses them for sex and blows hot & cold? They never say they want that but it sure does work to get their pants off in real life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2013): Smell nice, COMPLIMENTING us, and for me personally I get aroused when a good looking man wears a v-neck shirt and I can see his chest hair lol...I also get turned on when a guy grabs my hand and kisses it and stimulates my arms or thighs....that makes me want to have sex. Keep in mind, though, every girl is different!
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (3 August 2013):
 Have a good dress sense. Find the style that you feel most comfortable in (no sweat pants please), and smell good. Scent is so important. Whenever I walk by a man who has on great smelling cologne, I always give him a second glance.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (3 August 2013):
Dear OP,
The most simple answer I can give is to have a physically fit body. Just as men check out women's bodies, we check out men's bodies. And no matter if we tolerate physical flaws in our boyfriends and can fall in love with an overweight person and care about inner beauty, we're sexually and intuitively attracted to a certain degree of athleticism. I'm not talking Arnold Schwarzenegger style here, just some muscle tone.
Also, clothes and hair style play a big part. Tastes may vary, though. If you want to attract a hippy girl, you might not want to look like a lawyer. If you want to attract a business woman, you might not want to look like you're about to go to a reggae concert. And if you should reveal certain body parts? In general, it's enough to reveal your arms and not wearing clothes that are too tight or too baggy. You should be dressed in a way that makes you feel confident.
Psychologically, I'd say that sexual attraction lives of an element of playfulness, showing signs of interest (smile, eye contact, subtle compliments) but then also giving the woman some space to think about you and becoming curious about you. The one mistake men make so often is that they're moving too fast. They take all the initiative, dominate the conversation (asking all questions, not allowing pauses), initiate too much physical contact, eye contact and they're basically smothering the woman. The other extreme is being so shy that the woman is not sure whether you're interested at all, therefore not "counting" you as potential boyfriend or sex partner (hello friend-zone).
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (2 August 2013):
 Smelling good (fresh and clean), listening when a girl talks, genuinely laughing at her jokes, and like MsSadie says, a bit of touching is also good. Not too much, just lightly brushing her arm while you're talking or her back as you hold the door open and let her walk through first, or while you're talking, you can lean in closer and put a hand on her lower back. This works especially well in busy places where it's hard to hear what someone says, as you need to get closer. Nice forearms are a plus for me.
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (2 August 2013):
 Aside from just being a sexy-looking guy, you mean? Because honestly, if I think a guy is really hot, then I'm going to find the majority of what he does sexy.
Touching helps. It can be especially enticing when a guy's hand grazes my lower back. Smiling with lingering eye contact, too. The touching works with most guys, but the smiling with lingering eye contact only works on me if I'm at least a little attracted to the guy already. Otherwise it's just off-putting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2013): For me, good arms, tousled hair, a good body (not super ripped but looks after himself), black jeans, white fitted-ish t-shirt and a leather jacket, smells amazing and is confident in himself. Perfection!
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