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writes:Lately my husband has been asking me to wear very revealing clothes in public. I have tried to accomodate, even though doing so Made me very nervous and self conscious at first. It still makes me feel that way, though less so the more I do it. To give some examples, he likes if I wear a tight shirt without a bra so that my nipples are apparent. Or if I wear a sheer bra / sheer blouse together. Wear tops that gape open affording people peeks down or in my chest. Thin dresses that make apparent racy panties underneath...I wouldn't do this on my own, but he gets SO turned on when I accomodate his requests, that we have great sex at the end of the night. The strange thing about it is that he doesn't get THAT excited when I wear revealing clothing behind closed doors. It seems to be allowing other people to see my body is what gets him so over the top.I have a few questions for you all:Do you think it wrong for me to do this? I am starting to be a little concerned because now that I am not as nervous doing it, I get a little tingle a couple times from the interest of other men (and one woman) - not just from exciting my husband. This seems wrong to me for some reason. I even fantasized re the attention I received from one person, right in front of my husband, later and masturbated.Last question is whether any of you have done this before. How did you do it? what did you do exactly? Did it end up damaging your relationship in the long run?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2013): Yes I have done this, then it stepped up to fantasy talk, then to pretending i was single, then meeting men then touching my body, then sleeping with men, while he watched. He loved it, loved it, loved it all. I however walked this fantasy step by step not quite knowing where i was been led. I realised that everyone else was having their fantasies' fullfilled' While I was FEELING EMPTIER each time i gave a part of me away to please others, afterall this was 'his'fantasy not 'mine'. I had the ability to bring it too life so i did and my ego fed off all the lust, but i knew something inside me was starting to die. Everything I held true became of no value, I became of no value, my relationship no value,I felt empty.There is nothing wrong with sex or a mutal agreement to do things like this, but it has to be 'you' been true to yourself, or you walk through the veil of fantasy and we all know fantasy is not the 'real' deal, this is the place we meet untruth, uncertainty, things with no real value.In answer to your question, yes I have done it, and if you do, be sure your eyes are wide open to where you MAY wind up. And yes!my partner/ husband loved me and still loves me, don't know if he would fall asleep and walk in the shadows for me though?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (3 August 2013):
 First of all, wear what you want. You went the extra mile in pleasing him and wearing such clothing. I would say you over compromised yourself. If you weren't comfortable with it, then decline his request.
Now, it seems as if you like the attention you receive in wearing promiscuous clothing. Sure, who doesn't like that attention? Often, that's why women wear such revealing pieces. If it gets your rocks off, then continue to dress in that manner.
The only problem that may stem from this over time, is that your husband could start to get jealous of the attention you're receiving. Then retract his initial request and try to make you wear a burka. Though something tells me he likes showing you off, so you may not run into that issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2013): Well it mostly depends on your culture and your taste. If you are happy with what you do then do it and enjoy it. And if you are not happy then it's a no from you. End of the story.
Just to share my personal view with you, my wife is of the conservative type. To be honest, I wish sometimes she would draw some attention in public. It would make me proud to see other men getting jealous of me for having her. (Ego boost).
I don't think what you described makes any dangers for your marriage. It doesn't make you a slut and doesn't make your husband a pimp. You enjoy being noticed by the opposite sex, which effects your confidence in a positive manner and improves your sexuality. And he enjoys his ego boost, which obviously makes him a better lover in bed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2013): What you are doing, enjoying is an ok fantasy to have, but is inappropriate. It needs to be done where it is acceptable...like a nudist beach for nudity. So maybe you need to do it in bars or clubs where it is considered acceptable. It isn't really ok to take your sexual fantasies out in public for others to see without it being a cultural norm....just not a good societal practice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2013): Your husband obviously has some kind of fetish. There is one couple that I know where husband likes when everyone stares at his wife, the only difference is she likes to dress like that too.
Now she is 38, and her daughter is 12, so she calmed down a bit with revealing herself, but before it was just ridiculous. She does have a nice body, thin with big boobs, so she can afford to show her legs Ina short dresses, but still... She used to dress literally like a hooker. Now it's a bit less, but still, short skirts, see through top, too much of a boob showing.
I have a nice body also, but my husband would never let me out dressed like that. Men do look anyway, because they're .....men, and sometimes my husband gets pissed about it.
I don't think it's appropriate if you ask me for any woman unless she is really young girl to wear something very short even for a very young girl it's not appropriate to show her nipples. But for a married woman especially
Clothes always carry a message. People who pass by don't know your personality and they judge you by how you are dressed. And obviously men will think that this is what you want to attract attention from them if you are dressed like that.
I don't ow really know why you go alone with it. Now you obviously like it, because it flatters you. It can lead to other things, but may be not. As for your husband, may be he needs to talk to someone about this fetish of his, because next will come that he wants to see you haing sex with another man.
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