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writes:i need so help please. ok so ive been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and here latly everytime we go out we both have a really good time but once we leave he is in a really bad mood and alwayz takes it out on me there has been times that he has told me to pack my shit and get the fuck out of his appartment and not to come back. i have no idea why he is like this, he says its cuz he is tired from working all the time! but my question is why would everything be going good and once we leave the bar hes an ass to me. im alwayz nice to him and alwayy do everything to make him happy but i cant ever make him happy what can i do to make him more happy? Reply to this Question
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (26 June 2008):
 Hi,
well its most likely two things. One , the alcohol, he is an ugly drunk. A lot of guys (and girls as well ) turn ugly when they drink - it is not a good thing believe me, and it will get worse before it gets better - if it ever does.
Two, you are a doormat, you are intent on pleasing him, so he feels he can walk all over you and you will be the one to go crawling back to him.
You need to get some respect for yourself and realise you deserve better. He is treating you like dirt, leave him and find someone else. Leave him to be the drunken barfly that he is destined to be, I feel its only a matter of time before the fists start flying.
This is an unhealthy relationship , its not good for you, time to call it a day and move on mate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): Is he drinking at the bar?It seems to me that if he's not drinking but his behaviour has a pattern, then maybe its just the way he goes out and comes home now. When did it first start? What happened on that evening? Either hes stuck in a rut and is just repeating bad behaviour and getting away with it, and not realising what a moron hes being, OR hes a actually not a very nice person, and is taking out his problems on you. But if you don't live togetehr and your just visiting his place after the bar then maybe he has issues with you staying over? I dunno, either hes got some complex issues, or he likes a lot of drama, and you're letting him get away with it. Next time, pack your stuff, get a taxi and see what he does.
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reader, Vertigo  +, writes (26 June 2008):
hello
I'm not too sure wht cud bring on his mood swings, maybe it's work, maybe it's the alcohol, but whatever it is, all i'd like to say is that u need not bend backwards to keep him happy.
Is it that he gets drunk and then gets nasty? Is he nicer when he's sober? I'm not too clear on those aspects, but whatever it is, maybe someday you should put your foot down as well.
Try talking to him on occasions when he isn't mad, maybe after a row, once he's calmed down. Tell him how it hurts you each time he treats you without consideration and also tell him that you want him to treat you better.
love n luck
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reader, Vertigo +, writes (26 June 2008):
helloI'm not too sure wht cud bring on his mood swings, maybe it's work, maybe it's the alcohol, but whatever it is, all i'd like to say is that u need not bend backwards to keep him happy.Is it that he gets drunk and then gets nasty? Is he nicer when he's sober? I'm not too clear on those aspects, but whatever it is, maybe someday you should put your foot down as well.Try talking to him on occasions when he isn't mad, maybe after a row, once he's calmed down. Tell him how it hurts you each time he treats you without consideration and also tell him that you want him to treat you better.love n luck
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