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writes:My long distance boyfriend wants to move in with a female roommate his age (he's never met her, he found her on craigslist). I'm trying to be cool with it, but for some reason I'm kind of having trouble with it. On the one hand I do trust him, but on the other we're long distance. I'm pretty sure he'd find another apartment if I asked, but I haven't because it seems kind of controlling or unreasonable or something. What are your thoughts on opposite sex roommates?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI mentioned it was making me uncomfortable, but I didn't ask him not to do it. In general I trust him, but being long distance makes it harder. I haven't seen him in 2 months now and it's hard to trust someone I never actually see. I'm planning to move out to be with him by October or so. I'm not so much worried he'll cheat on me as that he'll just get close to her and dump me for her... Which is probably totally mad.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (8 May 2012):
 Stranger from Craigslist? That sounds more creepy than anything really.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 May 2012):
 I had a male room mate for a while, but he was an old friend so it wasn't weird in any way.
I think it's doable and honestly I think the house could potentially be cleaner with a boy/girl living together over a boy/boy or girl/girl.
I think you should talk to him, however, you can see how you having trouble with this shows a lack of trust?
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (7 May 2012):
 I think you should air your concerns with him.
Its not *controlling* to let him know how you feel!
Letting him know how you feel is being communicative not controlling and as he is your bf he has a right to know your feelings on the subject matter.
Opposite sex room mates can be fine depending on the nature of the individuals; however i personally would not be comfortable sharing with a boy.
Goodluck.
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