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writes:I am now a mother of 2 boys and still with my fiance. We live in a 1 bedroom duplex and I moved back to California since February of 2011. I have a female cousin name Leila who stays with me as well. It has been a month she's been staying with me. Now, I have another cousin name Gina who needs help. I also told her to come stay with me. I have discussed this issue with my fiance and he told me that this is all on me. He didn't have a say-so in the first incident so why do I need a say-so in the second time around. All I know is that, I want to help my cousin but its him who makes the whole issue a negative outcome. When I brought this to his attention, he said do what is right. So the right thing for me to do is, to help out my cousin Gina. I don't have much, but I can help them as much as I can. This whole thing, to me, is like; WWJD. I know who I am, I know what I am capable of, and I know what's right from wrong. I don't look down on people, or anything in that nature. I will help you and direct you to the right path so you can have a better life/opportunity. My cousin Leila and I are the only people who has income circulating. He still hasn't had a job in 2yrs. I still include him in everything even though, in his eyes, everything I do is wrong. He's complaining about sleeping on the couch because I'm helping someone else out. But I have sacrificed so much to take care of my kids and help another in need. I don't do this because it's fun, I do this because to me, it's the right thing to do. I don't need their money. All I need for my cousins to do, is do something productive with themselves. That's all. But he picks arguments with me. He says negative things about Leila so I can be mad at Leila. But I told him, all that stuff he saying don't bother me. Because it's not hurting me. They're hurting themselves by not being grown about themselves. OMG. Someone help me. I know I can't please everybody, but it's a joy for me to help someone to be someone they've always wanted to become. Am I missing something? Should I help my cousin Gina?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): Your boyfriend should have a job! Your cousins should not be living with you as there is no room for them . They need to realize it clearly. They are asking you knowing that you won't say no. If u had a different housing like a big house with 3 bedrooms that would be different as u d have room for them, but not the way u live now.
Even just for u and your 2 boys it's not enough room.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): You living in a one bedroom duplex with your husband, two children, and one cousin is ridiculous...and you want another cousin to move in with you?
If social services discovers your living situation, you could lose custody of your children. Do you love your husband? Do you ever consider his feelings when it comes to making decisions? Have you considered that he really seems to be angry and depressed?
You ask: WWJD? He would take care of the children...he would put them first.
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