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writes:So I was talking to my mum eariler and I asked if she thought me and my boyfriend made a good couple, just for something to say....and she looked abit shifty, and said no, not really.I was kind of shocked - we've been going out for about 10 months, and whilst we do have fights, we're really close, and he's an amazing guy.She went on to say that she doesn't see us as compatible, because we have different intrests,etc.Which is true - I love reading, going out with my friends, watching TV etc, and he likes sport, computers, etc. But we do have things we like to do together - we have similar taste in music and movies, and we encourage each other to do our own hobbies, then get together and watch a movie together, chat, etc.Also, our personalities work well - I have a really quick temper and can be really irritable, and he's really laid back and easy going.Anyway, I know our relationship is fine, but I don't know why my mum doesn't see it that way?? She also went on to say that she thought I was much better with my ex, who I infact apsolutely loathed towards the end of our relationship, and had nothing atall in common with.She's always been kind of funny about my boyfriend, so I don't know if that's why she said it. She also makes little digs about him, which I really hate.What do people think? Is she just saying it 'cos she don't like him?Do you need to have the same hobbies and personality as your SO for it to work?
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (29 July 2009):
 I don’t think that is true people with the exact same interests seem to clash whereas people with different interests can do things together as well as apart. Maybe your mother doesn’t approve but this is your life and who you choose to be with should be your decision. Don’t let your mother influence that. She might think she knows what she is talking about as she obviously will have more experience with men and would have made the mistakes for herself, but even if your boyfriend isn’t the right person for you, you'll figure that out for yourself in time and your mother has to accept that you make your own mistakes. It’s the only way you will learn, not to say that you’re wrong as I don’t think you are. Maybe your mother thinks she knows what’s best for you, meaning the ex, but she needs to accept that you have moved on from him.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (29 July 2009):
 Some mothers think they know what is best for their daughters.
Sometimes they are right, sometimes they are wrong.
It don't matter because the daughter never listens anyway.
My aunt and uncle lived almost apart, he was an international truck-driver, she was a stay at home mom. One of the longest marriages I know of.
Other couples tear each other apart because of tiny differences.
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