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writes:this question is aimed more at the guys, however I'm open to everyone opinion... What are the reasons a guy would suddenly start ignoring a girl?? I have a certain guy in mind as I ask this question; just this weekend I felt we were finally starting to get comfortable around each other (prior to this I would just catch him looking at me, smiling when I laughed, stumbling over words, attempting to get closer to me, etc...I get the impression he's a little shy and doesn't have much girl experience) and then BAM, he just started ignoring me... to the point of turning away and going dead silent when I came into the room (there was only 1 other person in the room besides him and I)I confess I am also shy, and to avoid getting hurt I tend to try and act disinterested, because normally I'm not the type of girl guys chase, so maybe I'm not putting signals off? But I really like this guy; to the point of sweaty palms, a racing heart, and loss for words (a few people have informed him of me liking him).I really just don't understand the sudden change... and to make things weirder, the day he ignored me I heard him talking abnormally loud about how he was texting some girl and telling her how hot she was and blahblah (I know he knew I could hear).if you were him in this situation, what would be the reason you were ignoring me? and even without the given situation, why do guys ignore girls?thanksxoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionboth his sister and my brother have told me he likes me, but when a friend asked him about it on a social site (a month before i was confronted by his sister and told he in fact did) he denied it and said he had "high standards"...
so now i wonder; did he start liking me after saying that and getting to know me, and is now just shy about it (the whole "what will people think" factor; having trouble getting over his hangups)?
is it possible the realization that he is falling for a girl he wasn't initially attracted to has him confused and retreating...
or could it be that he ignores me as not to lead me on? which doesn't really seem to add up, due to the fact that he knew i liked him (his sister hinted) and he still flirted for quite awhile (a month+) after the fact before he abruptly became distant.
[ps. the whole not looking at me/talking to me thing happened 2 days in a row, while he was at my place with my brother (who lives with me)... kind of obvious when someone is ignoring you in a situation like that.]
this guy is so much like me, in so many ways; and when i like someone, i don't mean to do it entirely, but i ignore them.
but then again, he's a guy, and guys tend to have different motives that girls. he's not immature, but he tends to be shy in certain situations (usually when he's lacking the encouragement and influence of his buddies).
i just wish i could get to the bottom of it, without having to ask and make an idiot of myself (because i usually see him a lot, and i do care how he perceives me).
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): Yea this fella lacks confidence and is insecure and doesnt know how to communicate this directly therefore he plays games and comes off very immature. I wouldnt chase this guy, emotions aside, I see this guy not mature enough for a relationship. At least this is what I sense. Good luck.
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reader, clueless1976  +, writes (15 December 2010):
Being a guy I tink that one he is insecure about himself and doesnt want to approach you. I think that he likes you but is afraid of the let down. If you want to be with this guy you need to approach him and start the converdation you might even have to ask him out. Hes doing the girl thing to test you to get you to react.
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