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writes:Alright well my birthday was a few months back and this might be kinda a stupid post but its confusing the crap out of me. So the girl I have feelings for and am really trying to get over as she is now dating one of my friends and most likely doesn't care about me at all wished me a happy birthday on facebook. Most people that wished me a happy birthday I thought was nice but I was really hoping she would even know it doesn't mean anything and she gave me a smily face at the end of it. I want to think she actually likes me or cares a little but at the same time I want to convince myself she hates me to make it easier not to think about her. Her birthday is coming up and I care about her still, Im sorry but I can't help it. So I was thinking will she even notice if I don't wish her a happy birthday I would like to think she does because that tells me she thought about me. I know no one can answer that but her but we use to talk a lot mostly me talking to her even know I knew we were just friends. As "friends" we have been through good and bad I guess I have gotten frustrated and made her question me and have been the good guy and gone to her sporting events to cheer her on. So what would you recommend should I wish her happy birthday even know she probably won't thank me and even know I would like a response from it? or should I not write anything because she might not notice me not being there at all? I don't like how one person can make you feel different or special especially when they might care less about you. and I am afraid that is what this is like. a simple happy birthday and a smily face a few months ago made me feel good even know it meant nothing but if I did the same she might not even notice,thanks for the help
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2013): u shld wish her
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): I think you should. At least it shows you care enough about her to even achknowledge her birthday.
I wish everyone happy birthday's. Ex's, old friends, and teachers. Even if i dont get anything back, im okay with that. Im just happy knowing i have tried.
You wont know anything unless you try it. Or you could not do it and see if she says something, then you can make up lame excuse. Like you forgot or really busy or something.
But if you truely think you should just say it any way. Dont get your hopes high, no one likes to be shot down.
Y'know... If you really wanted to see if she'd notice, why dont you ask her if she wants anything for her birthday? She'll notice then! :)
Also...If she is dating one of your friends and you still care for her, you might want to be careful with what you might say to her, if you say anything at all. I dont think you would want your friend mad at you for any reason.
xoxo Best wishes
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