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writes:hii am wondering what are the pros and cons of having separate bedrooms when living together.any views / perspectives etc. ?thanksJ Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): The way I see it:
Pros: You don't keep each other awake with the sound of snoring. You retain the duvet and don't have it 'stolen' in the middle of the night. You can fart and waft the covers without feeling embarrassed and without having to listen to any complaints. There's the element of excitement of sneaking into someone else's bed for a spot of nookie. You get the dressing table and mirror to yourself. You might like a softer mattress than him. You can read with the light on at your leisure. The wardrobe is all yours. Once in bed you can spread out to your heart's content.
Cons: There's no-one to cuddle up to. The carpet on the landing between the two rooms gets worn out. When it's cold there's no-one to warm either your feet or your backside on. There's no-one to scratch your back. If there's a strange noise in the house in the middle of the night you don't have anyone to wake up to go and investigate. There's no fun in giving oneself a 'Dutch Oven', just the self-satisfaction of its potency or disappointment at the lack of it.
Personally, I prefer one bed with two people in it. However, if there's another room to escape to in the event of tossing and turning, snoring and farting etc. then that's no bad thing and can only help to preserve a harmonious relationship.
Phil
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reader, red1982  +, writes (28 December 2007):
I wish I had enough money to buy a house big enough so me and my husband could have seperate rooms!!I love him but having my own bed and space would be lovely and I wouldn't have to watch all the boring films he loves at bedtime, or be woken by his alarm clock at 4.45 every morning! I could also decorate it in a girly way and not have pants left on the floor!!That said I would miss the intimacy that sharing a bed leads to. I do love it when we get into bed together at night and talk about everything. And it's nice to have someone there to cuddle up to when you've had a hard day.I think it is a personal choice that all couples should decide for themselves. If you would feel more comfortable having your own space to get away to then it sounds like a good idea. It doesn't mean that your relationship is odd or anything.
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reader, kenny +, writes (28 December 2007):
 I guess alot depends on the couple in question really. A couple might not want to share rooms till they are married. Or maybe a couple still live with their parents, and they have to have different rooms under that roof. Personally i think that if a couple live together than they should share the same room, i think its a good thing, but thats just my view.
All the best x
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