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writes:I realised yesterday that I've mentioned to one of my friends three times in the past few months that I miss being in a relationship. I was a bit shocked at myself because I don't want to turn into one of those people who feel as if they need to be in a relationship to be happy.Can anyone tell me what they personally feel are the perks of being single? Feel free to say if you prefer being in a relationship and why, I don't mind, I'd just like some opinions, thanks :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replies everyone, you all said some really great stuff.
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reader, lovebird1  +, writes (13 April 2011):
My list (I am single for one year now and really like it)
- being able to masturbate in bed without disturbing anyone :)
- being able to watch adult content on tv or on the internet without having to justify yourself
- going out with other single girls
- no criticism about your clothes etc.
- dating new people
- flirting with everyone you like without feeling guilty
- more time for hobbies
- cooking and eating what you like
- basically making ALL your decisions without thinking about what your partner will say. not having these constant thoughts of how stuff will affect your relationship
- finding out who you are because you don't make compromises
well, that's it so far
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): Me and two friends of mine and have all been single for years now!! To be honest - I HATE the thought of being tied down to anybody unless they are Mr Right/Mr Perfect - and let's face it - how often does HE come along??
Being independant is the best thing you can be in life - as you don't need to rely on anybody and hence won't be let down. Plus you can still date men and have a good time as often or as little as you want!
Don't become too dependant on having somebody around! - the way I see it - you come into this world alone and go out it alone...!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 Not to sound like a tart, but you can have sex with whoever you want whenever you want.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 If you are single you don't end up in all those arguments about what he did that you didn't like, what you did that he didn't like, what he thinks you should do or not do etc, who hurt whom, who didn't do the dishes, all his mess etc. You basically skip the downsides of a relationship which can be SO tiresome if you're with the wrong person (and lets face it, we do kiss a lot of frogs before there's a prince, if there ever is a prince).
When in a relationship you pretty much do depend on the other person for happiness. You shouldn't, not all the time, but we do. If we had a date and they cancel, we get upset. If he promised to do something and doesn't, we get upset. If he forgets about something important, such as your birthday, you get upset. If you want to get married and he doesn't, every time you see a bridal dress you will get upset. Being single you avoid disappointments! You avoid nagging to get what you want, you avoid questioning if you did the right thing or not.
What I enjoyed the most about being single (Im not single at the moment) was knowing that I didn't have to deal with all the problems of a relationship. The guy I was with before had a temper, loved to pick a fight, verbally abusive, in short he gave me a headache and caused me daily drama. Life became so much more peaceful when I got single!
Another thing I loved was that my ex had all these rules for what I could and could not do, and now I was free to finally be myself again! I had entered compromise after compromise on who I was and what I enjoyed to do, and now I was able to be myself. Not having to explain myself to anyone, or arguing my right to do as I please.
Of course, those are things you experience in a bad relationship, in a working relationship you shouldn't have to face so many hardships. But even a working relationship demands its sacrifices.
In a relationship you are not free.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (13 April 2011):
I'd say I prefer being in a relationship generally, but often miss aspects of being single, like:
- the excitement of the unknown: i.e. meeting someone, getting asked out, going on a first date, first kiss, first everything
- being able to flirt
- single girls' night out
- no fighting or being frustrated with your partner
- not feeling tied down
- being able to choose what to do with no restrictions
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 April 2011):
 Toilet seat stays down, towels stay off the floor, you KNOW FOR SURE that you are the only one drinking directly out of the milk carton.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (13 April 2011):
 Perks of being single, hmmm, well, lets see.... no man issues! You only need to think about yourself! If you're in a relationship, after the initial "oh my god I'm in love, this man is perfect stage", relationships are rarely easy. No matter how well you get on with someone, there is always going to be something that gets in the way of complete nirvana. You often have to compromise with each other, on matters like time spent together, amount of sex you both want/need, who does the dishes/pays for what/puts the most effort in etc, etc, which can give you a lot of stress!
So when you are single, you can do what you want, when you want, without having to think of anyone else. This is little day to day decisions as well as lifestyle ones. If you want to go travelling or move to another country, you can go wherever you want, no compromises.
Also you have so many options open to you romantically. You can take your time flirting with and dating different guys until you find the right one. You can go out and socialise with whoever you want, without worrying about whether your partner is having a good time or is getting on with your friends.
Basically, you can just be yourself. Make the most of this oppertunity now to enjoy being you. Do all the things you wouldn't be able to do if you had a partner. Because, no matter how similar to you a boyfriend is, they will never BE you, so there will always be things he won't want to do with you or might not agree with you on(shoe shopping, bungy jumping, life drawing, getting very drunk and pulling the waiter). Now you can do all those things guilt free and happy.
Have fun!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (13 April 2011):
 - Having all your money to spend on what you want
- Being able to watch the TV you want!
- Being free, to come and go as you please, do what you want when you want without answering to anyone
- Not having to text someone, call someone, all the time about trivial things
- No compromising - you can be totally selfish!
- Enjoying time with your friends, seeing more of your family
- Having time alone
- Having time to explore your own interests and develop hobbies etc
- No drama & arguments
- The magic of dating, the anticipation of a first kiss etc
- Not having anyone tell you off for buying too many shoes and clothes!
- Being able to think about and plan your future without having to take anyone else into consideration
The list could go on and on....! And the worst part is I'm in a relationship! I do actually miss being single, and now I have been with my partner for nearly 2 years I LOVE when he goes away for the weekend! I love him very much and would never want to break up with him for the above reasons, but there is something wonderful about being free and being alone, with the world as your oyster and every opportunity open to you.
Relationships are great, being single is great - equally relationships can suck at times, and so can being single. It is swings and roundabouts really, and as they say the grass is always greener on the other side!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): I am currently in a three year relationship and I love him, I really do. BUt when you are single you don't have to ask permission to do anything or run it by another person.
You can talk to who you want when you want because you're single. You can date casually. You can be spontaneous.
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