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writes: What are the 10 biggest signs a man likes a woman?The ones that say i'd like to get to know you more, not just to get you into bed ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): ***These are in no particular order, and this by no means is an exhaustive list.***
(If you just met) He offers his phone number and/or e-mail address before asking for yours, and then he calls or e-mails you within the first two days. If he calls the first night, he's a bit eager, but don't dismiss him.
(If you have known him for at least a month) He calls you at least once a week. (A red flag should go up, however, if he's phoning you only late at night. That's a man looking for a phone bone; he's feeling you out to see if you can be one of his future booty calls a/k/a fuck buddies.)
He touches your arm, forearm, the back of your hand, your shoulder or the top of your back -- and none of the touches are explicitly sexual, but instead seem like they are accidental touches.
You can feel his eyes burn into your skin when you look away, but when you turn to look at him he looks away or he actually has turned his body so that he is in profile. Men really can be shy creatures when they like a woman!
He walks you home (or drives you home) after a date and doesn't try to get in your knickers.
(If the guys is past the age of 30) He mentions girlfriends from the past without delving into what the relationships were like, and there is no bitterness when he mentions them. (Beware of the guy who nevers wants to talk about a girlfriend from his past. If you know this new male friend is hetero, and he wasn't living his life before you as a monk or priest, why aren't there any lovers in his past? This is not a sexual-orientation question, but an is-he-a-sociopath? question.)
He asks you about your childhood early in the friendship (during the first six months, or, if you are in an LDR, he asks you during the first year).
He invites you to dinner at a public place. It doesn't matter whether you go dutch or he pays, as long as if he pays he doesn't expect sexual reciprocity.
He tells you some of his fears and wants to know yours.
(Within the first six months) He broaches the topic of sex, but not in an effort to seduce you (well, maybe indirectly), instead, in an effort to find out how intellectual you are about sex and sexuality. (If he includes talk about contraception, and not just yours but his, that is a good sign that he is a responsible and caring man.)
(In time) He invites you to dinner at his home, and it is a meal he cooks for you himself, AND it's a dish that you like (which he knows because you told him the kinds of foods you like).
(In time) He asks if he can give you a shoulder massage or upper-back massage -- and both of you are clothed and not horizontal.
(In time)He introduces you to his dearest friends.
(In time) He introduces you to his family members (not the whole family, of course, but those he considers close emotionally to him).
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): 1.always asks you to go for a walk/take you home2.always talks to you3.looks and smiles at you4.asks to tell you something5.always asks you hundreds of questions6.asks for your help7.tells you jokes8.buys you something9.invites you to his house10.ASKS YOU OUT
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2007): A man that I know gets nervous and flustered and can't look me in the eyes. He is very nervous around me. I know he likes me because years ago he told me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): They look at you alot in a nice, soft way!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): He looks at you alot. If you look his way he stops. When you look away he looks at you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2006): the guy... will hit you everytime he has the chance...
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (11 June 2006):
 I guess it depends how he acts around you, if he trys to engage in conversation with you, looks your way, but actually makes an attempt to get to know by talking about things that you like. I dont think there is a top 10 sure way of knowing whether hes after you for one thing only. that only comes from getting to know someone over time. So unless you date and chat and see how far it goes its a bit difficult to gauge if he wants you as a person or simply to get you in to bed. I guess you have to feel comfortable around him and build up trust, all men are different at showing how they feel, and some that we think are after more than one thing turns out not to be the case. Its all about judging. I couldnt really tell, as there have been a few way back, that i thought i would have been a long time relatioship with, that were indeed just after fun, they wined dined got on with me found out alot about me, showed they cared, acted in every way a boyfriend would do, and indeed waited a long time to bed me, but still turned out to be after one thing. So its a tough call, appearances can be deceptive, its all about how you see thigns and how you think things will pan out.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (11 June 2006):
 hi,
I'll give you my opinion but i don't think there actually are any specific 10 rules.
1) do you cath him looking at you?
2) does he brush against you (not in a pervy way)
3) does he get hot and flustered if he talks to you?
4) does he move near you whenever he gets a chance?
5) do his mates talk to you about him/ask you about him?
6) does he txt/call/e-mail you constantly?
7) does he hang onto your every word? (thought not!)
etc etc etc
there are some subtle and some not-so-subtle hints that you get, it's different for ech guy but I hope these helped you!
Phoebe
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