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writes:What are the after affects of having anal sex? My boyfriend wants to do it but I'm scared because I hear that you have discharge from the anus afterwards. What are the good things about anal and what are the bad? Please help me out!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2011): Well i my self really enjoy anal, and it drives my hubby crazzie. . The first time i tried it i was scared because i heard nothing but bad things about it. . One thing ive noticed its i enjoy it more after lots of foreplay and several rounds of normal sex lol. . I dont know but in my opinion its very enjoyable i can honestly say i myself love doing it much more then normal sex but we dont do it that often either just incase just so we have anal every couple of days 5-9 days were as we have regukar sex on the regular basis. .
Good luck with making a choice. . And if you decide to try it . . I hope you enjoy it as much as i do :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 September 2011):
 LustyLisa, I don't doubt what you say, but out of fear that the OP doesn't know already: there's about exactly the same risks involved with having regular intercourse. I will say regular intercourse is potentially more dangerous than anal sex even, but people tend to forget. People forget how dangerous regular intercourse actually is, if you are looking for statistics, because it is so socially accepted, while anal sex isn't as socially accepted.
There are risks involved with all things you do in life. With anal sex at least you don't risk pregnancy... Which, if you need to be reminded, can ruin your life and even kill you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 September 2011):
 there should be no discharge if you use a condom and you should use a condom
be well lubed
be relaxed (if you are not relaxed and not wanting this it will NOT work)
if it HURTS stop. it might feel odd.. but it should not hurt.
if you are worried about feces you can have an enema before hand...
lay on your belly with a pillow under your hips.
be RELAXED
BE WELL LUBED
have him press against your anus but NOT push... HE NEVER PUSHES... all the pushing is on you.
YOU push back maybe a bit... he will progress slowly... you wait till you are ready then you push back some more.
be patient... this could take an hour or so...
and if it hurts stop you are not ready...
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (20 September 2011):
 It can be messy, Always "clean out" prior to doing it. It's not all that much pleasure to the female(I'm told) but guys love it. I'm told hemeroids can occur along with bleeding. I'd advise against it myself. Efven though it was great for me, she said "not so much".
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reader, olderthandirt +, writes (20 September 2011):
It can be messy, Always "clean out" prior to doing it. It's not all that much pleasure to the female(I'm told) but guys love it.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (20 September 2011):
This is a popular topic these days, undoubtably thanks to the omnipresent porn industry. I got a urinary tract infection and visit to doctor, my wife, before I knew here contracted serious hepatitis which has weakened her for life. I dont think its worth it. It is usually a very submisive act by the woman, I got no pleasure and was disturbed that it was painful for the woman. If you feel you have to, try it once, but for gods sake use a condom.
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reader, LustyLisa +, writes (20 September 2011):
I don't personally practice anal sex and have had to fight to defend my body against unwanted anal violation in the past. It's definately something you should want to do for yourself, not because you are pressured to submit because your partner wants to. My husband who has enjoyed anal penetration by toys and objects since his teens has many issues from advanced procidia ( prolapse )and redundancy ( excessively stretched tissue that's difficult to clean after BM's ) , he's lost the feeling of stool in his rectal vault and often soils his underware before getting to the bathroom ( aka fecal incotinence ) and because of the length of some of his toys, he's actually caused fecal impaction before and has done it so many times and so far up that he's actually lost some of his gutt motility and peristalis which leads to chronic constipation that meticuecil doesn't help. Yet, in spite of his problems, he still enjoys it and swears it doesn't hurt him.I've been a clinical provider in the O-R setting for more than 25 years and know for a fact that not everyone who engages in this form of sex gets away without problems. I seen too many damaged and diseased bodies come through the general O-R as well as endoscopy suites over the years to ever want to take such a risk with my own body. In the last 5 or so years we've noticed and increase in autoimmune hepatitis and Hepatologist as well as Gastroenterologist are thinking that unnatural disturbance of the bowel flora with semin and lubricants is causing the immune system, which is largely in the digestive tract, to attack the liver. We've seen a dramatic increase in anal cancer in women under 35 yrs old which in previous generations, anal/rectal cancer didn't affect women hardly at all but when it did occure they were past 50 yrs old and unsually had some family history of GI cancer. I won't even go into detail about the cases that come in through the E-R for the many acute rectal/anal injuries that require surgery because they are far too numerous and frankly sad to think about.There are allot of rules of play that you must adhere to if you choose to try anal sex and following the rules won't necessarily mean that you won't suffer some unpleasant or even dire consequences. The burden of risk falls more on the receptive partner ( the one that's being penetrated )and only you can decide if the risk is worth it for you or not. Some people will claim that what I see in my daily work on a regular basis is fiction and I'm perpetuating unnesesary fear and myths. I truely wish that were so, that some of the suffering I've personlly witnessed wasn't/didn't really happen to that poor soul. Only you can decide what's believeable and you alone should decide if this is something you want to do or not.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (20 September 2011):
Btw, I read the first response. Anal sex doesn't hurt. If it hurts you're doing it wrong. I never hurt during anal sex, unless it was for the times when the man was too eager, like I explained. My first time having anal was rather pleasant. It's not like you're "popping the anal cherry". Your butt isn't a virgin. Your butt has squeezed out larger things than his penis, in all probability, and is certainly capable of it. So no, it doesn't hurt you when you do it right, which is to relax and take it slow and let it happen without pressure. The man needs to "ease into it" and GO SLOW. Anal isn't for hard core pumping and thrusting. Anal is a slow and passionate, intimate experience.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (20 September 2011):
Nothing happens... There's no after effect. But go to the bathroom first. Because getting something up IN you goes against what you normally do, which is to squeeze things OUT. Which means him pushing into you will cause a natural instinct to try and squeeze it out. I've heard of women who had anal and then pooped in the bed. You WILL FEEL LIKE you have to poop. Even if you don't, it'll just feel like you have to go. Anal sex is not for all! Some love that feeling, others find it unpleasant. But it is fun to have tried it a few times, don't knock 'til you try it, like the saying goes.
My first time having anal was unplanned (so no pressure), we went at it slow and I was well lubricated by him just pressing himself up against me making the entire area wet.
1. Lubricant. You need to be well lubricated, so does his penis. Either by natural lubricant, wetness etc, or buy a tube of lubricant.
2. Take it slow and ease into it, you need to want it yourself or else it wont work. YOU need to find it exciting, be curious, feel naughty enough to do it. And you need to be the one in charge of what goes on. For example you can lay with him behind you, on your sides, and move your butt up against him, to control what happens. That position allows you to easily move away.
3. USE A CONDOM. You can go about it without a condom, like my first time having anal. However, when he came inside of me I was pooping sperm for the next two days. Unpleasant. Besides, it's more hygienic for him to wear a condom in case there's some poop down there (which there's a natural chance of being, as he'll be going deep in).
Good things about anal: It's naughty. It's "forbidden". It's a completely new way to be stimulated. And if you're among the people who enjoy the feeling, you'll love it. I like it. Occasionally. Just because you like it doesn't mean you'll want it all the time, I need to be in the mood for it. But when I am in the mood for it it is the excitement about doing something rather kinky, that turns me on. If the thought doesn't turn you on then I'm not sure it's for you. Although I'm all for trying everything at least once.
Bad things about anal: if the man is too eager it just hurts. I've bled. A few times a guy would be too eager, pressed too hard too fast, and it hurt and I bled (just a few drops) and had to run to the bathroom because the feeling of needing to poop was just too strong. However there were no hard feelings, we cleaned up (after he's been in your ass he NEEDS to clean up before coming in contact with your pussy or clitoris, otherwise you can get an infection), and after cleaning up we continued doing other things. Anal also takes it's time. You can't do an anal quickie unless you're a pro. It takes time, you need to warm up to it. For example it's a good idea to have loads of foreplay, or have regular intercourse first.
I really can't tell you any "bad" things about anal though. It's just a type of sex. If you feel it is unpleasant DON'T DO IT. Simple as that. It's not all about the man you know, it's about you as well. If you don't like it then you don't do it, fair enough. Not liking anal sex doesn't make you a prude, or bad, it just isn't for everyone. If you are a person who don't like the feeling, then anal sex is bad for YOU, but to those who love the feeling anal sex is great. It's all about what you feel comfortable with and enjoy.
Maybe you'll like it, maybe you wont, only one way to find out. It's fun to have the experience any way.
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