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writes: what are men's opinions on girls who watch porn? Should we keep it to ourselves and lie to our bf/husband or fess up?
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reader, Scotlass65  +, writes (4 August 2013):
 There's no big deal in women who watch porn too, if anything it does spice things up in the bedroom plus you learn a lot from it
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (3 August 2013):
 In my opinion, women that enjoy looking at porn are very desirable as they have nearly the same lust for sex as men do. I don't guess you'll marry me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2013): Men lie about it all the time. We are the last ones who will likely give an honest answer....do as I say but not as I do. That seems to be the common theme.
If porn is not a problem in a relationship then it is best to be honest about it because it shouldn't be a big deal at all. If it is a problem in a relationship have some integrity and find something else to do instead of dishonoring and disrespecting your partners feelings on the issue. It's pretty simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2013): When I told my then partner I watch porn, he absolutely loved it. He said it takes the pressure off him in the bedroom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2013): I don't think is wrong, I belive is totally the opposite. unfortunately my gf doesn't like it, but she is very open about everything. I wish she'd like it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2013): You don't HAVE to tell your partner. But there is no reason not to tell him either. It's no big deal.
Personally, I like girls who watch porn. I prefer them over the Victorian, uptight type of girl.
I know my wife watches porn and she knows I do. We even tried to watch together but it didn't work well. We still watch alone.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (27 July 2013):
 You shouldn't lie to your partner. It's up to you whether to disclose or wait until asked.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (27 July 2013):
 I'd be fine that she watches it, and honoured that she shared the info.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 July 2013):
 Why lie? If YOU have no problem watching it and no problem with your husband watching it, what's the deal?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 July 2013):
 What do you mean "fess up"? To me, fessing up means you've admitting to something. But it's no crime to watch porn, and there's no need to keep it a secret, hence no need to "fess up" either. If he asks, just tell the truth. If he doesn't ask, then why would you bother telling him? Not everything needs to be a big point/drama. I watch porn, and I've never had any boyfriend or guy I knew look at me weirdly. No one cared, really.
People are different though, some might have issues. But that's their problem, not yours. I once had a boyfriend who got offended that I hadn't shown him all of my sexy lingerie when we first started dating, and accused me of hiding it from him. That was weird, but it was also HIS problem, not mine. Why would I have shown him all my lingerie, I had no idea he had a need to know the details of what was in my closet, nor did I have a need to hide it.
So, if someone reacts, they've got an issue and it's THEIR problem. No need to hide the porn use, but no need to publicly announce it either.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (27 July 2013):
 No reason to lie about it. But you need not feel obligated to tell anyone either, it's your business no one elses.
Personally I'd like it.
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