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writes:My fiance had an ex who was pregnant when we met. She said it was his, but then was going back and forth with her ex. After being 4 months along, she told him he wasnt the father and refused a DNA. A year later he recieves papers in the mail for a DNA test, bc in order to get medical she had to prove the father since he was not on the birth certificate. Since the test proved he is the father he has arranged child support and has been going to see the baby who is now a year and a half. The baby takes to him great... however, the mother is refusing to allow him to have her for the weekends, saying that she wants to wait a year or so until the baby knows him more. I am too pregnant now, due any day now and we are not able to travel two hours each way to go see the baby for two or three hours every two weeks, which not to mention the baby is not really getting to know him this way, while the mother is supervising for that short period of time. He wants to be able to take her every other weekend and let her get to know him and our child more. Would he stand a chance in court fighting for every other weekend visitation considering he did not see her for the first year of her life bc the mother said she wasnt his and she even moved out of state? We have visited with her several times and she takes to him great, but the mother is wanting to supervise all visits for a year which is a bit crazy I think considering she caused this in the first place. Should he take this to court and what are his chances of winning?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): The mother usually gets all the spoils in this game.
She has to be pretty bad (on paper) and the father has to be pretty good (on paper) before the legal system even gives his side of the story a second look.
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reader, rcn +, writes (16 May 2008):
 The court order should already have that information within the child support agreement. I couldn't see one being ordered without visitation being ordered at the same time.
Do the court papers state, "Liberal Visitation"? Standard visitation which is in effect with orders, unless alternative arrangements had been made include, every other weekend (6PM Friday - 6PM Sunday), every other holiday, and 10 weeks during the summer (beginning 7 days after last day of school, returning not less than 7 days prior to the beginning of the new school year).
If court is set, his chances are real good. The mothers supervising the visits, is only a choice she's making, doesn't mean its in the best interest of the child, or fostering a relationship between the father and the child.
I hope this helps you.
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