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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm in such an arkward situation, I really don't know what to feel or do.I've just left school and I have had this particular teacher throughout the whole time i've been there- 5 years. She's always been my favourite, I like her alot. I discovered that I myself was gay about 2 years ago now. I'm out to most of my mates and my Mum and Dad. My teacher who I have just talked about knows aswell, and she is herself gay too. Although when she found out I was gay she said "aah I knew you was about 3/4 years ago!".When I discovered I was gay I found my feelings for this teacher very strong. We get on very well, share alot of interests etc and we talk alot. She also wants to keep in contact when I go onto college and move onto further things. I have had these very strong feelings for about 3 years, I even think it's love. I really don't know what to do.Either carry on with my life and meet other people, but still keep in contact although it will be hard for me to keep these feelings back. Or do something about it.Please don't say it's just a crush...because crushes don't go on for years and I know it's not a crush because previous crushes are no way near like this.
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reader, Drat001 +, writes (31 December 2010):
I agree with samy, in part. It's important to really know someone on a personal level, and I mean outside of any professional setting, before you can say if it's even starting to become love.
My advice, if you're still around here to read it, is to stay in contact with her, and be whatever kind of friend you can be with her, but don't put all of your hopes into just her. The right woman might walk into your life and then walk right back out again without you realizing it because of your focus on one person from your past. If you're going to have a relationship with this woman, it will happen in due course. Don't think you need to let it all out/act on your feelings. You can determine if she likes you in the way you like her, and then move from there, and you can do it without droping this huge ball of pent-up feelings in her lap. Just, when you're talking with her in a non-academic setting, get to know her. It is out of the classroom and not in the classroom that you'll determine if it really is love and not just a really hard, really long-lasting crush. You may find that in a relaxed setting you don't get along that well. Or, you might find that you do get on well. Just get to know her, personally and not professionally, and you'll know what to do.
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reader, samylez6  +, writes (22 June 2010):
K well I'm lez but I think that getting involved with this teacher isn't such a good idea...I think that maybe she's more of a idol or person who is kinda a guidance counciler to u...not love
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): keep in contact with her. it will show if your love is strong enough. It's no problem when two women love each other
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