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writes:Do I leave him? If not, how do I get over the fact that he was a member of a sex chat site??Tagged as: Breaking up, Pornography Previous question Next question Question - (22 October 2007) 1 Answers - (Newest, 22 October 2007) A female age 22-25, anonymous writes:3 months ago i found out my boyfriend of 7 years whom i lived with was looking at porn, searching for very specificthings (bending over ect) and chatting to girls in chat rooms, and was a member of a sex chat site.Most of the responses on here was that i was over reacting by thinking about leaving him (which i did)Anyway ~ the last 2 months i have been meeting up withhim, to try and work things out, imtrying to be strong. But its not working. Im not surewhat im suppost to do to get over it? or what he should do?I have a lovely figure (often get asked if im a model), attracktive, long hair, kind, loving ect yet my confidence is now none existent. I comfort eat, ive put on half a stone now, i dont sleep well,and work is difficult as i feel sad all he time. Plus ive had an outbreak of spots. Its really taking its toll, yet hes tried so hard too, and regrets what he did.Please give me some adviceon howto get over this and this weird fear i now have with women/porn/magazines ectPLEASE HELP:-(
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): Hi
Thanks for your responses.
heres some more info.
We wereboth virgins when we met. He said helooked outof curiosity as hes 32 (9 yrs older than me) andhas never seenporn,womens bits ect!!!
and said he didntlike it, anditdidnto anythingfor him,but stillsays hes glad he looked,cus at 32 he had never seenporn.But says now he has, doesntknow what all the fuss is about
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reader, Charley x +, writes (23 October 2007):
 I have the same problem as you ma darlin. Listen its manlyhood all boys look at porn its hard but you will see there side to it. But if he is chatting up girls maybe you should think about it.Email me on
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp +, writes (23 October 2007):
 DO NOT WORRY! You are completely normal and to be honest if my boyfriend was doing the same as yours was I think that I would be exactly the same. There is no reason why he should be even remotely interested in these websites when he has a girl like you. Porn and sex sites are miserable sites for lonely single men who can't get there kicks from the real world. It's your guy here thats in the wrong. You need to ask him why he looks at these sites and then tell him how they make you feel. A man should always be allowed a certain amount of freedom when it comes to things like this but when it gets in the way of your relationship then its gone too far and could be very damaging.
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