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36-40,
*ittykhaos
writes:me and my best friend haven't spoken in months(please read my other questions) I emailed him and his entire family ( over a month ago) and asked them not to contact me again then a week ago out of the blue he emails me and says: How do you expect me to talk to you if you delete me as a friend plus im not being nasty but please dont email my family it puts me in a difficult position ok . just talk to me the only reason ive been so distant is because everything i do seems to make you unhappy .*parker* I emailed him back and told him his excuses for lack of contact were poor and i wasn't sure i wanted to speak to him again. Truth is i love him and i miss him so much but how to i rectify not just one relationship but the relationships with his family members too.
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reader, kittykhaos +, writes (14 August 2009):
kittykhaos is verified as being by the original poster of the question You guys obviously didn't read the back ground into this his family have been my family too we have been best friends for 7 years. I am closer to his mum than my own and his brother was my other best friend. We entered into a sexual relationship after 2 years of denying to each other how we felt. He then ended that relationship and we went back to being friends. All seemed fine. He then didn't speak to me for 4 months so i emailed his mum and asked if he was ok because i was worried about him(i emailed him first and got no reply) she emailed my mother saying she couldn't disclose what was wrong. I then decided that the best thing to do was to cut myself off because i was watching a family i had been part of for years but i was being excluded with no reason. He then emails me a month after with what is written. You should also know he is very close with his family his mum and his brother both knew how he felt about me before i did. They knew everything because he told them. I emailed his family and said goodbye i didn't make him out to be a bad person but i figured if i was going to cut myself of from a whole group of my friends i should explain why.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 August 2009):
 Keep his family out of this. That is just ridiculous to drag them into whatever it is that is going on with you.
and if you want NO contact you don't reply to an e-mail. Sorry to be so blunt as to say that it is FUCKED UP to play with another persons emotions like that.
Grow up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): Seriously what are you doing?Read the post above, it makes no sense, you showed this guy up in front of his entire family, and you then tell us you love him.You need to decide how you feel about him, then tell HIM (not his family) then tell him what about him you dont like, then listen to what he says, then decide if you believe him. If you dont then finish it and move on.But for the rest of your life when your having a personal relationship then keep it just that, how would you feel if any guy emailed your family about anything between you two, mortified ashamed and very very embarassed.
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