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writes:I'm 15 and I've never had a boyfriend. It may sound annoying to some of you because there are bigger problems but I have a bunch of friends and I wouldn't say that I'm ugly but I'm not going to say I'm drop dead gorgeous either. I'm about 5'3" and I weigh about 120. So I'm not fat but I don't look super skinning. I have a fun-loving personality and I love people. I just can't see what's wrong. It's not like there's not enough guys out there. I used to act and there were a lot of guys that I inter-acted with and I'm in a group that has a "brother" group.I guess you could say that is made up of all guys. I have yet to figure out what is wrong with me. So here's my question. What am I doing wrong? I talk to them etc. Is there something wrong with me? Or are they all just preoccupied by the blondes?
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reader, lacrymosa_652  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Don't change yourself to suit guys. Be yourself, then when a guy does like you, you'll know he likes the real you.
Just because it hasn't happened yet, doesn't mean anything is "wrong" with you. And for all you know, someone has liked you, but it's been a "crush from a distance" and they haven't bothered to approach you.
It's easy to feel bummed out about being single, especially when it seems like everyone's in a relationship from the age of 13 [which isn't true at all], but try and enjoy other aspects of your life. When you're not worrying about being in a relationship or not, you'll find that life is just as fun being single as it is being with someone. Life's what you make of it, really. You've already said you have a big group of friends so spend time with them, you won't feel lonely.
It'll probably happen when you least expect it. So don't worry so much about being in a relationship, because it's better to be with someone who you actually like than just being with anyone for the sake of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): You're 15 - you have your whole life ahead of you to get a boyfriend, and to be honest changing who you are and what you look like is not going to attract the type of guys you want. You have plenty of time when you hit 17-18 to start looking, and you might find that this is the time that guys start appriciating the girls who aren't Barbie blonde and look for originality. I didn't get any male attention until I was 18, despite me describing myself as you have, not ugly but not stunning, not fat but not skinny etc. Now I'm 19 and in a relationship with someone who likes my personality as much as my looks. You just need to be patient and wait until you find the right guy - any guy who is attracted to someone who is not who they appear to be is NOT the type of boyfriend you want, trust me.
Good luck :)
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reader, katweetybird  +, writes (4 March 2011):
Don't become desperate. You don't want to become one of those sluts who guys walk all over. Stay true to you, and anyone who is worth your time will see you for the amazing person you really are.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 You haven't blossomed in full, my dear. Just don't get desperate and wait a bit.
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 don't go blonde..just change your clothing style
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