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writes:ok so i have a crush on a really cool girl. we are both 14. but the only problem is she has a gf. her parents are trying to hook us up. although she has a gf me and her have kissed whilst she was going out with her gf. she doesnt like being gay but she loves her gf. it sometimes makes her cry when she thinks about how much of her life she is hiding from her parents. she has to hide it from her parents because her parents would kick her out if they found out she was gay. what i want to know is since im her friend, what advice should i give her on her situation because i dont like the idea of her being upset but i dont want to break them up on purpose unless its best for them both. wot do i do?
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reader, loverman86 +, writes (26 December 2007):
loverman86 is verified as being by the original poster of the question ok thanks for the advice, i recently found out she is moving away, her parents want us to go out and we both think that if we were going out her parents would not make her move away. but she and I are completely sure that her parents would kick her out if she was gay because her brother was kicked out because he was bisexual.
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reader, lboy +, writes (26 December 2007):
 dear reader,
this girl may have it all wrong i am 15 and i was scared about telling my parents i was gay for the same reason i thought i would be kicked out, but a few days ago i told my mum and apparently her and everyone else in the family have known for years they just waited for me to tell them. i think that if both of you know that she loves her gf and really wants to stay with her then do what i have done many times befor i suggest that you and your friend come to an agreement that you will be her cover bf i have done this loads of times but in the opposite way lol all the two of you need to do is tell your parents your together and tell her gf what your doing, make it seem like your spending alot of time together, getting to know each other really well and then maybe keep it up for a month of two maybe more its all up to you and then one day start to have an arguement but make it sound really serious nothing trivial or your parents will try to convince you to get back together. then go a few days talking but dont let your parents know then start to hang out again as friends but let your parents know that you aint getting back together cos when your in a relationship you drive each other cray but as friends your really good together.
well i hope this will help you.
dont forget to write bakc and tell us how it goes.
good luck
lboy
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reader, loverman86 +, writes (20 December 2007):
loverman86 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok, a situation update, her gf knows that i have a crush on her. and whenever i ask her wots up she is always so closed up and doesnt talk about it. i respect that but she always seems so depressed when she doesnt talk about it and it saddens me to see her like that, she just keeps all her "bad vibes" locked up which just leaves he depressed.
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reader, aim  +, writes (18 December 2007):
 Hey. You don't have to be the guy to step up and do something for their relationship. As her friend, you should just be there for her in times when she is depressed. And i believe, you are already doing a good job at being a very good friend to her. Whenever she is seeking for comfort, just be there and ask her, "what is up?" or, "what happened?", Just let her talk and let her bring out her anger/sadness/whatever. This helps a lot even though you are just listening to whatever she is saying because she is able to spill the 'bad vibes' and thus, becoming free of those negative stuff.
As the other guys have said below me, whatever HAS to happen, WILL happen. So, as a close friend, the best thing you can do is to be able to be there for her be it thick or thin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2007): You sound like a nice person and its refreshing to hear a question like this. Well just step back a bit and be a friend and be there for her when she needs you, If somethings ment to be somethings ment to be but you can't force it right? Message me if you want to talk about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2007): Say you don't mind stepping back if it makes her happy, but you are there if she wants you. Just help her sort her situation out for her and be there for her. That's the best thing anybody could do.
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