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writes:I am wondering if there is anything that an average looking girl could do to grab a guys attention? Is there a (non-slutty) way she could dress? A specific perfume? Any behavior? Something she could say?Have you ever developed an attraction for a girl after hanging out with her? (like initially you didn't consider her attractive but later did) Do average girls just have to be patient and wait for a guy to get to know her personality before he will develop a dating interest? Reply to this Question
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (9 January 2015):
Let me tell you I've fallen head over heels for people who look as plain as paper to the casual observer, just because of their personality, the way they carry themselves. Look, without you in it, your body is just a shell. And even a beautiful shell is still nothing more than a shell. So don't be afraid to broadcast your personality.
Sure, taking care of your appearance helps with the initial attraction. Wearing flattering clothes, makeup and hair can make you up quite a bit in the scale of mainstream beauty. But it's got to be you. You dress and present yourself for you, and no-one else. And if other ppl end up liking the way you look, that's nice but not the main goal.
I knew a guy who was drop dead gorgeous. Like seriously, he could have stepped straight out of a GQ spread and he had the whole dark hair, wolf blue eyes combo going on. First time I laid eyes on him I was like "holy shit he's hot". Then I got to know him and my attraction fell away so fast it was like it had never been there at all. I've never experienced anything like it. His personality was just so ugly it made the outside ugly too.
Personality is huge. I know I'm a girl answering this question but I'm pretty sure the same goes for guys. Don't feel held back by your 'average' looks. The way your personality shines through matters, but you have to let yourself. If you're hiding yourself away no-one is going to be able to find you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2015): Be confident and yourself and the right guy will find you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2015): Beauty is in the eye of the beholder one female could look attractive to one guy but not another , you shouldn't have to go out of your way to really grab the attention of a man like changing how you look and how you are as you would be putting a false you out there , confidence is key if your shy push yourself to do something out of your comfort zone like speaking to a shop assistant first before they speak to you things like that , you only need to do what everyone does keep clean and brush your hair there's no magic formula I.e not certain perfume to get a man, one man could like the smell another night not be so keen if this is a guy you already have your eye on then you could turn up to places he would be with social friend sites its not so hard to find the place everyone likes to hang out. Hope any of this helps
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reader, Abella +, writes (6 January 2015):
 When you meet the right guy you will not be seen as average by him. You will be the one who delights him and impresses him and he will seek you out, want to know everything about you and spend all his time with you.
A besotted man has no limit to his adoration.
All you need to do is be yourself to find the man who is truly your soul mate.
Get involved in some volunteer activities - nice guys get involved in those things too.
Choose to join a group you think is on your wave length, especially if they involve themselves in things you enjoy too - a nice guy who thinks like you us more likely to gravitate to such a group.
Get involved in a hobby that you think is fun. It does not need to be a male centric hobby.
Though I can tell you that when I enrolled in wood carving I was the only female in the whole group and there was always a lovely man hoping to assist me whenever I was having a bit of trouble with some carving. And those guys were funny and fun to work alongside.
Always keep your hair clean and well cared for.
Join a group that puts on plays in a local group for the community. You don't need to be one of the actors on stage. Such groups always have many jobs for helpers in the groups.
Enrol to learn a new language. That's a great way to develop friendships too.
Offer to walk a dog for a neighbour who can't do that anymore or a neighbour who is going on vacation. Guys are more likely to talk to you if they are walking a dog and you are too.
Keep active and attend events in your neighbourhood - people often meet the love of their life less than 5 miles from where they live.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2015): MOST people look average. There are very few very beatifull people in a world. Everyone at one point find a mate. If you are not strikingly beatifull it doesn't mean you should get out of your skin to attract a guys attention.
I am being banal here of saying be yourself but that's the truth: be yourself, care less about what guys think of your appearance, because there will be plenty of guys who will find you pretty and plenty who won't. Just remember we girls hold the power and it's sex that they want so much. protect yourself and be selective.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2015): Personality is huge. In fact all your questions are great and very good points to focus on. How you smell, how you act, what you say, what you wear. Definitely all these play a big role in attraction and how you are perceived. Most guys I know definitely like girls who dress chic and classy, above anything else. Who take care of themselves and take care of their bodies. Intelligence is important too. Being knowledgable and worldly will definitely work in your favor. It's not just being book smart, it's having exposure to lots of stuff. And being versatile. A guy who can feel just as comfortable taking you to a baseball game, dining on hot dogs and beers, as he can taking you to a five star restaurant, to nibble on foie gras. That you can adjust and feel at ease in contrasting scenarios. That's attractive. Having interests and passions are attractive too. Even if its something nerdy like you love crossword puzzles. As long as it is genuine, that's also attractive. You are at an age where you have the time and freedom to grow as an individual and expose yourself to the world. Now is the time to explore and find yourself. Traveling is a great form of education. As is college. Try out all sorts of things that piqué your interest. That will develop your personality and make you interesting. That's the key to having a great personality. And being cool, smart and interesting is golden in terms of attractiveness.
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reader, arrgy +, writes (5 January 2015):
That is such a vague question, it depends on the situation, who the guy is, what the setting is, etc.
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