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anonymous
writes:I met this great guy online, we’ve been on six dates, he kissed me on the third and came back to mine and stayed the night, nothing happened.The same happened of the fourth date again nothing happened.On date five we went to the cinema and he held my hand throughout the film he came back to mine nothing happened just kissing, we end up chatting on the sofa until the early hours.We get on really well. On the last date we just went out for a drink and then came back to mine, he stayed over again and cooked us breakfast in the morning, then we cuddled on the sofa all afternoon. I told him that I liked him on date four and he said ‘I don’t know what to say to that’ and then on date five we were kissing in bed and he said he liked me also…. We text every couple of days and we’ve added each other on facebook. He’s coming over to mine for dinner on Saturday, I’ve been holding off sex as I’m worried I’m going to get hurt, but I think on Sat it will probably happen. I really like him, I’m unsure if he likes me, he sent me a text yesterday saying ‘I really enjoy hanging out with you, I hope this week goes quickly’ what does that mean?Plus I’m worried we’re going to have sex then he’ll get bored like a lot of guys do and I’m going to be hurt. Does he like me, I’m too worried to have the ‘what are we’ chat with him because I don’t want to pressure him or come across and needy/desperate – what are your views? PS his boss is having a dinner party and he’s invited me along?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2015): You also need a guy's opinion.
It's too soon to be asking "what are we?"
You're dating. That's what it is.
Keep going out and take your time. Being eager for the label "boyfriend" kills it right off the bat. Enjoy what you're doing, one date at a time. Let things fall into place. I hope another uncle will chime in. You need to know how a guy thinks.
As for sex, don't do it until you want to. Never have sex under pressure, or to keep a guy's attention. Women always think sex is all we want. It depends on how we feel about you. If he's attracted to you, of course he want to boink you. If he takes his time and has comeback so many times,
something will develop if you just be patient.
Patience, patience, patience! Trust my advice. Some female is going to come on here and tell you to rush-it. If he drags his feet...this and that. That desperate. Get to know him enough to be sure you like him. Not just over-joyed and over-enthusiastic to meet a nice guy.
Take it from a guy.
Take your time! What's the hurry? A guy doesn't ask for four dates unless he likes you. You need to be sure he's not a player. So get to know him and then consider sex.
Best of luck, my dear!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2015): I'm in a similar situation Im not sure if this guy likes me or not so I had to just talk to him , but I think it's pretty obvious he likes you. Maybe sex isn't the best idea yet since you're unsure.. I would talk to him first
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 January 2015):
 Oh, he LIKES you.
I don't think he would invite just ANY girl to his Boss' dinner party.
But I'm not quite certain he likes you in "I want you to be my GF" or my "girl-mate" kind of way. Maybe he is trying to down play how he feels a little, maybe he isn't sure.
If you aren't SURE, and feel it's TOO soon to ask what's up... then don't have sex.
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