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anonymous
writes:My question is one a lot of people ask me and I can't answer, 'Why do i love him?'My boyfriend is Jealous, Possessive, Angry and Domineering, When we're out anywhere he holds on to me so tight and hates it when i'm out of his sight, but all i know is i love him so much my heart almost explodes when we're apart. I just love him.But he hates my friends and they hate him, he is rude to everyone especially strangers. People even think that he must be abusive towards me but he's not, he never would.my latest example is tonight we went to see the movie Titan. we were sitting next to 3 very friendly older women, they turned to us and asked had we seen the original movie but before i could answer my boyfriend grunted and said 'is there anywhere a person can go and won't be bothered' the look on the women's faces made my insides sink. I looked at them and smiled and said he had a bad day at work and answered their question. He hated that i spoke to them, i was there with him. I met these ladies in the bathroom after and they advised me that if a young man was like this in his 20's, he was only going to get worse! He just wants it to be us. he has no friends, except for his older brother.I love him so so much but for the first time tonight the sinking feeling i felt made me see what others have been telling me. And i have this unsettling feeling after what those ladies said. Will things get worse? Why do i love him? Can our relationship work?(Note: I'm 25. He's 29 and we've been together for over a year and right now i'm crying my heart out for even thinking these thoughts. but i can't turn to my friends because they will just tell me to dump him. I'm alone with my problem.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010): You've openly admitted he's jealous, possessive, and domineering. Maybe you need to ask yourself do you feel more loved by him because he behaves that way? Some jealousy is normal we all experience at one time or another. Possessiveness I'd be cautious about. No one owns anyone. I'd have a talk with him. Maybe tell him that it bothers you the way he behaves at times especially to others.
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