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writes:Hi my boyfriend from another country asked me if I would go there with him. We have only been dating for 7 weeks and he says he is falling in love with me. I told him that I was flattered but not just to jerk my chain cause he just met me and how could he love me that fast? I think I offended him alittle cause he said he was not playing with me. Then the subject was dropped and has not been brought up. then yesterday he asked me out of the blue if I would go to his country with him. I asked you mean for vacation and he said no I mean to go with me and he kinda just trailed off and stoped talking. I didn't know what to say so I played it off and said I would love to visit vacation in his country. Should I have said something else ? Do you think he ment for me to live there with him ? I kinda got that feeling. I really like this guy and don't want to mess things up but I don't want to leave my country and this is all just way too fast ! What should I do ? Should I tell him that he is moving to fast or say nothing ? thanks for any advice Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 Which country is he from ?
It would give us a better insight about that person. It could be some trap or some syndicate to lure girls into white slavery.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 April 2010):
 Different cultures have different expectations and views about how things work. You may be having a misunderstanding based on that. I think you should both do some research and learn how your individual approaches differ--don't forget talking to each other about this!
I'd say don't feel rushed into proclaiming love before you feel ready. And I think it's perfectly acceptable to tell him he's moving too fast for your comfort. Do it calmly and explain why. If he gets upset, then it's his problem and he has to figure out how to deal with it. It's not your problem and you don't have to fix it. Okay?
I'd say you can tell him that once you've known him for a while, (say 8-9 months or a year), THEN you'd consider traveling with him, but before then, you just aren't ready.
You don't have to explain each and every little detail about the inner workings of your thoughts and brain, so don't fall into that trap.
Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (12 April 2010):
I think you're walking into some sort of trap if you do. Have you met this guy? Do you really know anything about him? Do you know what he is like, what he actually looks like? This seems to be quite unsafe to be honest. If I were you, I would think about cutting contact.
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