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26-29,
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writes:I recently met this really sweet guy. At first we just hung out a couple of times as friends Recently though we have started hooking up, but nothing further than just making out. Its been about a month of constant talking and hanging out, but he has made no inclination that i am anything more than just a friend. I really think i'm falling hard for him, but he seems to have 2 different personalities- when he's with me he's so sweet and charming but in front of his friends i'm just one of the guys. Should i ask him if we are ever going to be anything more than just friends? Or should I continue on our friends with benefits relationship? I don't want to loose him as a friend, but frankly, I need to know what we are. Any suggestions on what to do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 February 2013):
 Well i would stop making out with him till you clarify your position with him.
DO NOT be FWB at your age.
IF you are falling hard for him then you need to talk to him about it but be aware that if he does not feel the same way about you by this point NOTHING you can do will change that.
And giving him sex is not the answer to keep him as a friend.
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reader, Carry On Dick  +, writes (1 February 2013):
 Sounds like a player, wise thing to do is keep your distance from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2013): Talk to him OP and do it soon.
As a man I can tell you I will take hooking up all day long and never try and be anything more if I don't think I have to. I get the sexy stuff for nothing, why would I change that on my own?
OP life is quite simple when you learn that you never get anything in life without asking for it.
If you want more tell him you want more, if he says not now or maybe sometime in the future or I don't want a relationship right now then he's only using you for sex. It's been a month, he'd know by now if he wanted to be with you but that doesn't mean he'd want to do anything about it.
So you have to.
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